Falling in love with the wrong person


Has anyone ever fell in love with the wrong person? Or have you ever questioned yourself if you are really in love with this person, or is it an infactuation which will hopefully pass? I feel like I'm in love with a man that I consider to be my best guy friend. I tell him everything about me, and sometimes I think I'm such a nerd for telling him. We've been friends for 8 years, and we know a lot about each other. Here's the thing he's in a serious long term committed relationship. I never once disrespected his relationship, but the more that we get closer I think to myself why couldn't we be together. I feel so stupid for even allowing my feelings to get to this point. And No I never told him anything because I don't want to ruin our friendship.
Sep 14, 2016 @ 08:58 pm

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wrong person?

First of all there were times when i did have the option to become involved with someone that was already involved and I didn't. Not a good idea anonymous. There are so many unattached good guys out there.Keep him as a friend, but when it comes to love NO Falling in love with someone unavailable is not the way to go.Spend less time with him and look for that special guy who could be closer than you think but you are spending valuable time with someone unattainable
Sep 14, 2016 @ 09:06 pm

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Thank you for your reply. And I agree with you 100%. It's just hard, and I didn't want it to come to this. Actually I never thought that it would have came to this. Thank you once again
Sep 14, 2016 @ 09:30 pm

Yes...yes... yes... many of us have.

I had "fallen in love" with the wrong person few years. I put that in quotations because I was NOT in love - I thought it was... and it wasn't lust either.

You will realize this on your own... you will realize your worth, your happiness, and yourself when you've had enough of the person who think you "love." But the best part of it all... when you let go, you're free and you find a sense of self worth you never knew existed... and it's an amazing feeling. Even more importantly, when you let go you'll say these exact words "WHY DIDNT I LEAVE EARLIER!!!" Cause I surely did! Good luck... and remember you come first always, and always.

Nov 18, 2016 @ 12:48 pm


I agree with @irememberu. There are many times I had the opportunity to be with someone whom is involved with someone else but I chose not to.

That being said, it's understandable that you developed feelings for your best guy friend. It's pretty common, either one or the other has feelings for one another.
If your feelings are that strong for him, the best thing is detached yourself from him. He's in a serious relationship with someone else. Even if it doesn't work out with this current girlfriend and you end up dating him, you will just be a rebound. It gets messy and you could potentially ruin the friendship for good.

I have a rule for myself, I'm could only be good and close friends with men I know I will not have romantic feelings for. If one of us have or share feelings, I will back-off right off the bat. That way feelings don't get any more hurt.

Feelings can not be controlled, but your actions could. It's up to you what you want to do but to save yourself from being more vulnerable hurt, I will back off away from him for a while. There are a lot of others out there. You could use this time to meet new men. Good luck. :)
Nov 18, 2016 @ 07:38 pm


Thank you for all the replies. I was surprised when I saw the posts, I even forgot I wrote this.

Thank you for the words of wisdom from you both @sarita.xo and @jujusamples. I'm just really happy I'm not the only one, and I was starting to lose my mind for a bit. I think you are both right, and I haven't found myself to detach yet. I've been trying to but clearly not that hard. I'm slowly pushing myself to say enough is enough.
Nov 18, 2016 @ 09:37 pm

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