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hey girls

as i write this i am very anxious and looking for advice. my period is 2 days late. its usually pretty accurate and i usually start it on my 29th day meaning my cycle is 28 days. my last period began on 30th Sept. i had intercourse on 11th Oct with the use of a condom. this was the 1st time i had had sex in nearly a year. i was expecting my period on Thursday 28 and its yet to appear. what i am worried about is
1) could i be pregnant?
2) could my period be delayed since i was on Flagyl and fluconazole?

i had a pain on my left side from Friday 22nd Oct and it went all  weekend. i heard this could be am implantation cramp. i am very worried because in my culture having a child out of wedlock is such a taboo. my parents didn't not talk to my sister for 14years after they discovered she was pregnant.

to be honest the reason i havent been intimate for almost a year is because i had a D&C;last year, i cant bear the thought of loosing another child.

but i am wondering where i'll get the strength to face my family if i am indeed pregnant.

girls what should i do?

please advice
Oct 29, 2010 @ 05:52 am

3 Replies



First of all, you need to do whatever you can to de-stress. Stress can delay your period and cause pains all over the body. I know that's a tough thing to do, but that's really where you need to start.

Secondly, yes - you could be pregnant. There is only one way to guarantee you don't get pregnant and that is abstinence. You had sex during the height of your fertile time, but unless the condom broke, you have a decent chance at this being simply a delay and nothing more.

Third, when I googled those meds you mentioned, I see they are used to treat bacterial and fungal infections. Anytime your body is not well, your period could be affected. So yes, that could be responsible.

The pain in your left side could be as harmless as constipation. I have never heard of an implantation cramp, but that's not to say they don't exist. I would think though that such a cramp would be felt in your pelvic area, as an embryo usually implants in the uterus.

Can you discreetly see a doctor? And if you do end up being pregnant, then you have a difficult choice ahead of you. You need to think about what is best for you and worry less about your family. I'm going to come straight out and say I'm pro-life, but I do believe strongly that it should be your choice. You shouldn't make this based on what others' interests are, because in the end you have to live with the consequences.

How to tell them, if it comes to that? We have chatted on this topic before and there is some good points made. Read this thread...

Good luck!
Oct 29, 2010 @ 09:51 am

Fluctuations are Normal

I agree with everything Mamaluv said (as usual!)

When you're not well or stressed, it's very easy for your period to be irregular. My friend's sister once missed her period for 6 months straight because she was stressed and was working out too much.

But be sure to take a test as soon as you can.
Oct 29, 2010 @ 01:19 pm


Sweetie you really need to de-stress! Stress plays a HUGE factor on your periods regularity. My period is extremely regular too but a few months ago it was 5 days LATE!!! I had dull cramps too and was freaking out about the possibility that I might be pregnant... Thank God i didn't know about "implantation cramps" or that would have made me so paranoid my poor period would probably not have come that month at all!

Everything that mamaluv said is true.

The only true 100% protection on conceiving is abstinence.
Failing that, what you said and the break down mamaluv did for you really stacks the odds in your favour (of not being pregnant).

-You used a condom which didn't break (I'm sure you would have noticed if it did!).
-You're on medication that is treating something that could potentially delay your period
-You are extremely STRESSED!!!

So first things first, please calm down! I completely understand what you must be feeling, a LOT of societies still don't accept children out of wedlock so I can understand the panic you must be going through. But the panic isn't helping your cause, it's probably the main reason for delaying your period!

We don't realize it but stress plays a HUGE factor in our body's regularity, so take deep breaths and calm down.

Go to a doctor not nearby where you live and have yourself checked out.

My bets are with you not being pregnant but go to a doc just to be on the safe side.

Take care *hugs*
Nov 01, 2010 @ 11:37 am

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