Getting along with his family?


So, ladies:

Do you get along with your boyfriend's (fiance's, husband's, whatever's) family?
If you do, do you find it difficult to do so? Why or why not? If there is only tension between you and one or a few other people, who? Is there something that happened that caused any of this tension?
Is getting along with his family important to you?

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Jul 05, 2012 @ 12:00 am

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It's hard.

Although I am always polite, I can't say I enjoy my bf mother. My bf has a pretty broken family and he really isn't close to anyone except his mom, and that's mostly because she lives 5 minutes away. I find her to be so rude and disrespectful sometimes. She's always insulting him or trying to guilt him. She wasn't a very loving mother and honestly she treats the whole mother-son relationship like a business one.
I'm usually quite shy and reserved and it can take me a while to open up to people, and I know my bf wanted me to be close to his mom. Long story short, one weekend, at his brothers wedding, I really feel like I opened up and that she had as well and I was really happy about that, only to have her make insulting remarks , once to my face and once when she thought I was asleep in the care. Needless to say I definitely pulled back and closed up instantly. I really can't say I want a relationship with someone who is going to be nice and then insult me behind my back. She found out that I was very upset and she never even apologized.
I eventually let that go, but I can't let go of the constant put downs and insults of her son. I fidn her to be bitter and miserable and I feel like she needs to try and rain on everyone else's parade, so to speak. I know that certain hardships have made her who she is, but instead of moving on and turning a negative into a positive she let it eat away and holds onto to it like crazy. She is always going out of her way for her other son and daughter ( he never calls and is ashamed of her and she has a long history of drug problems) and will never be mean to them. My bf is always there, the only one that helps her, does things for her and and is always there, but he gets the worst treatment of all.
She meddles and is always trying to tell him what to do. My family is very loving and close and I don't understand how any mother could treat their child like that.

My thing is very long, but it get's so annoying. I often feel like I'm just going to lose it. But I love my bf and try to continue to be nice because I don't have to be with his family very much anyway.
Jul 05, 2012 @ 03:36 pm

Can't choose family................

I was lucky, my MIL was wonderful to me, she has been gone now for almost 15 years and I miss her often. I enjoy the company of her daughters very much as well. The only conflicts we've had is with my SIL's husbands as they are old fashioned and judged my husband and I when my career took off and my husband decided to stay at home with the children.
Jul 06, 2012 @ 06:18 pm


My boyfriends mother is a piece of work, I tell ya. He stayed about a week at my apartment because my family was going out of town and I did not feel safe being by myself. Despite being in a RETIREMENT community, she kept on texting him "how does it look like in the day?" and "did anyone break in?"....come on! She is also very anti-social to boot. My bf and I have been going out for almost 2 years and a) STILL cannot pronounce my name and b) we have never had a conversation besides the "hi, how are you" pleasantries.
Jul 11, 2012 @ 01:29 pm

My husbands family....

I've been married for 5 years and together for 8, so I've gotten to know my in laws an the rest of my husbands family very well, but I can't say we're "friends". I guess his family (siblings) were brought up differently and have different values. We can't seem to see eye to eye on many things. However I've learned to ignore them for my husband. He knows the gripes I have with his family. Well actually he knows of some.... I try not to tell him too much of how I feel as these his parents and siblings, so I don't want to hurt his feelings. I only do this because I know he also has to tolerate my family too, who's far from perfect. As long as his his family isn't too annoying, we get along perfectly fine... turnign the occasional bline eye works for me.
Jul 12, 2012 @ 02:00 pm

Love Them!

Every relationship that I have been in, I have been very close to their family. They all seem to have great family members, who are very personable and loving. I haven't run into a problem at this moment, but I'm sure in time - someone will cross over onto the "crazy" line! haha.
Jul 16, 2012 @ 05:35 pm

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