on May 19, 2009 @ 10:52 pm|
So it's been about 3.5 months since we broke up. I still do not know what happend. I have a vague reason why from him but nothing that actually makes sense. We just went on a leadership conference together (ironically we were the only two teens picked from my school to go..), and we talked and hung out alot! And it saddens me to say it, but it's even harder now to try and get over him. I still love him. I just want to move on. But I feel like everday gets harder to get up and go on with life.
Help me move on please. <3
Ali de Bold
|So sorry on May 19, 2009 @ 11:42 pm|
Breaking up is balls. I know how much it hurts. But it will get better and you will both move on with your lives and be better for it.
Sometimes it takes a while to see that, but when you look back at that time down the road, you'll see why things ended and how life has a way of making up for the bad stuff ;) Chin up!
In the mean time, the best way to get over the breakup is to take care of yourself. Don't wallow in ice cream (well a bowl here or there isn't a bad idea ;), do the opposite. Do things that make you feel good about yourself. Dress well, eat well, surround yourself with good friends. Consider taking a little trip or a weekend away if you can afford to. Get back to what makes you YOU and know that this relationship doesn't define who you are.
|getting over it on May 20, 2009 @ 02:27 pm|
I can relate to you completely anonymous.My boyfriend of 4 years and I had broken up a few years back.I was extremely hard on me.I only got over it when my sister gave birth to my first niece.I loved that little one from the first time I held her.It was at that moment that I realized that he just didn't matter.There are more important things in life than him.I think you just have to find something very important to you to concentrate on,and that will positively help you.
|...... on May 20, 2009 @ 08:27 pm|
Its been over 2yrs since my divorce, and although my brief marriage was pure torture from begining to end, I still haven't gotten over it. I put up an awesome front, everyone thinks I'm so strong, so over his sorry ass..... I fool everyone but myself :) even in the most abusive situations, not all times are bad, and sometimes, time has a way of mellowing out the bad and bringing forth the good.
sorry my post is completely useless, I wish i could offer advise...
|a journey on May 21, 2009 @ 10:31 am|
I think what Anonymous #2 (above this post) is trying to say is, sometimes it's a long road. You shouldn't beat yourself up about it taking time to get over things, because it happens to the best of us.
MissChickie's right: find yourself again. A relationship doesn't define you - whether it's a romantic, family or friend relationship. What was special about you before is still there. Love is hard work - hard to maintain, hard to disengage.
Agaphmou has great perspective too: what is really important in life? In 10 years, will this all still matter? You probably want to wail "what if it does still matter?" You can't worry about that. There is a great saying: Do not worry about tomorrow because tomorrow will worry about itself. (Bible) Totally true.
Time. time. time. Sorry, but that's the answer.
Chin up, lady! Wherever you are, I hope the sun is shining :)