HELP! BOYFRIENDS BDAY PARTY AKA HIS FAMILY AND MINE OFFICIALLY GET TO MEET

steph.glez

So my boyfriend's birthday is this saturday. I want him to have a great birthday so for once in his life he is getting a party. HOWEVER this is also going to be the 1st time his entire family and my entire family meet. AWKWARD?! YES! So help girl im nervous about how to go about this day. what kind of food should i serve? what should i wear? but most important of all HOW DO I SURPRISE my bf. like how do i get him to my place he knows i live about 30 mins away i just dont know how to trick him we are going elsewhere. anywho HELP!
Apr 15, 2012 @ 10:06 pm

13 Replies

Becky

have him come pick you up

Have him come pick you up, and then ask him to come upstairs 'cuz you need help with your dress. :-)

As far as your families meeting, totally understandable why you'd be nervous! Only suggestion is, the day is about him, so both families should get along in a non confrontational environment :-) It'd actually be a great chance for them to meet in a relaxed atmosphere!

As far as what to wear. I say wear something gorgeous but not too smexy... his parents will be there and you don't want to look smexy with both of your families looking on, right? I wouldn't, anyways. Go for classy and gorgeous instead of sexy and you should be fine.
Apr 16, 2012 @ 11:48 am
Ali de Bold

You can do it!

Don't be nervous, you'll be great! Just focus on being yourself and enjoy getting to know his family. One trick I like to do is ask people questions about themselves when I'm nervous. It takes the focus off of you until you are more comfortable and it shows you are interested in getting to know them.

Surprising him shouldn't be too hard. Ask him to pick you up and say you will be going out for dinner. When he gets to your house everyone should be there already.

As for what to wear, I echo Becky. Wear something flattering that isn't overly sexy. A cute dress that isn't too short or too tight should be perfect!
Apr 16, 2012 @ 11:57 am
AlexJC

Don't Worry So Much!

You'll be fine, he'll be fine, your families will be fine, don't worry, you can definitely pull this off!

As far as getting him there goes, I wouldn't pull anything too fancy, if you are with him, make up a story and just tell him you need to pick something up at your house or maybe you forgot something. Or, if he will be coming there on his own, just call him up and tell him you want to have lunch or something. The more basic the lie, the better!

I totally agree with Becky and Ali as far as what to wear, just go with something nice, not overtly sexy don't show too much skin. A good rule of thumb is, if you wouldn't wear it for your grandma, don't wear it there!

For food, don't try and go overboard and impress people, this may not be the time to go and out and try that new creme brulee recipe, go with stuff you know how to make. If you are of the cooking impaired, go for catering! No one will know/care you bought it!
Apr 16, 2012 @ 12:14 pm
steph.glez

LADIES <3

thanks for the advice. I'll be tearing my closet appart to look for a good outfit. im just debating on jeans and a nice shirt or a dress...I would have him come pick me up the only problem is he does not drive =\ he's been traumatized after a horrible car accident and refuses to get behind the wheel. as for the rest i think i might have it under control.
Apr 17, 2012 @ 11:37 am
Becky

in that case...

You can go pick him up and "be on the way to the restaurant" and forget something at home so you double back to your place. Will that work?
Apr 17, 2012 @ 11:41 am
Aliza

Relax

I'd say go with a the dress over the shirt and jeans.

Don't worry so much, you'll be fine and he's going to have an amazing party because you did it for him.
Apr 17, 2012 @ 01:00 pm
fargiemargie13

How...

...did it go?
Apr 28, 2012 @ 10:37 pm
Aliza

Soooo

How did it go? I'm curious to hear how it all went!
May 04, 2012 @ 01:34 pm
steph.glez

:(

Ladies! It all went well until his step mom made a racial comment... I understand we are in America but we all speak different languages. Well my sister in laws husband is white and he understood the conversations because we would translate and keep him in the loop. He is 69 years old so he was tired at the end of the night. When we asked what was wrong the stepmom blurted out that he was mad because we were all speaking Spanish. Which was not even the occasion! She doesn't even speak English she's an illegal immigrant herself! That's when my father got so mad but kept quiet...but he let it out to me alone when they left. I was so hurt that my boyfriend did nothing to defend us in this situation. Not only that buy his friends where also there talking about how while I'm at home pregnant (if I am waiting on results) that they were going to sneak off to go drink but to just make sure I was at work IN FRONT OF MY FATHER AS WELL! He still defends his friends and I didn't want to fight with him on his birthday. So yeah...
May 04, 2012 @ 02:07 pm
Aliza

Sorry to hear

Sorry to hear some moments ruined your night. It's sad when people make racist remarks and that it still exists. Sometimes people may not mean anything by it but you should really talk to your boyfriend about it and find out. Also talk to him about how you felt when his step mom said that and ask how he felt. Don't just attack him and say he did not stand up for you as there may be reasons.


As for his friends, that's a childish remark - you should again talk to him about the comments they made and how it made you feel and how it may be funny to them, but when your in front of family it may not be the best thing to say and talk about. No parent wants to hear their kids getting trashed while they leave a pregnant wife at home.


May 04, 2012 @ 02:30 pm

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