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High heels/Short guys


I recently met a guy for coffee. It was sort of a blind date. He is very cute and sweet. I actually really like him. But I get the feeling that he is slightly uncomfortable around girls that are taller than him!? I am NOT tall, but I am slightly taller than him when I'm wearing my boots with a 2.5 inch heel. I'm about 5'4” with no shoes on, so he's about the same. I didn't really think much about it. His height doesn't really matter to me. But I went to his place to watch a movie last week and he made a comment about how much shorter I am without my boots on.

I was in Nine West the other day and saw the cutest pair of heels... and they were ON SALE!!! But I didn't buy them, because if things work out with this guy, I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable. I will not stop wearing my boots! I love my boots! But it is not like me to restrain from buying a great pair of shoes (did I mention they were on SALE!!!??) because of something so trivial!

I was just wondering if anyone has any thoughts. Are guys self-conscious about their height? And if so, is he willing to limit his choices to girls under 5'2”? Should I ask him about it?

Now that I think about it, I might have to go back to Nine West and buy those shoes. Seriously, they might make me taller than him, but they will look great! J
Jan 02, 2009 @ 09:43 am

31 Replies

Ali de Bold

Buy the shoes

You shouldn't have to stop buying shoes for fear of injuring someone's ego. It does sound like he is probably self conscious about it. Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to him about it and just tell him that you love his size and don't care if he is shorter than you with heels on.
Jan 02, 2009 @ 11:53 am

Get the shoes!

You should not give up your love of shoes or heels for anyone.  I agree with misschickie that he is probably really self conscious about his height as most guys are taller than he is.  Maybe you need to tell him how you feel and that it doesn't bother you.  
No one is worth giving up fabulous shoes for :P haha, but in all honesty, you need to be happy and if having a cute pair of heels does that for you, you shouldn't have to give that up for him. 

Jan 04, 2009 @ 05:49 pm


I love being tall... :-)

Short girls, tall girls... It's all good...

Some short guys don't understand how cool it looks for a short guy walking with a taller girl...
Jan 04, 2009 @ 11:33 pm

definitely get the shoes

You won't be with this guy 24-7. If you are concerned about his feelings, then wear the shoes when you are not with him. :D Wear them to work or something. If you are meeting him after work, well, I guess he'll just have to put up with the shoes for a few hours. On the weekends/special dates, you can leave the shoes at home. :)

I think guys are a bit sensitive about their height. I know guys that are 5'10'', 5'11'' and they still complain how they are not as tall as so-and-so.
Jan 05, 2009 @ 08:47 am

I got the shoes!

I went to the mall this weekend and the first thing I did was buy those shoes! I could hardly believe they had my size left! Thanks for all the advice! I probably won't wear them when/if I go out with him again. But that's a whole other issue. He seems to be playing some sort of game! I hate that! I wish he would be straight with me and tell me what he is expecting out of this... friendship? relationship? nothing?... etc...
But what's important is... guys come and go (unfortunately) but a good pair of heels is forever! :)
Jan 05, 2009 @ 08:56 am
Ali de Bold


Good Girl!

And BTW, if he's playing games, just leave him to cool off. It's pretty dull to play those games alone and soon he will realize you aren't playing.
Jan 05, 2009 @ 11:52 pm


i loved your post!!! very upbeat and girly :) and you definately made the right choice by going with the shoes!! absolutely true - guys come and go but a good pair of heels is forever!! so are you going to be doing a review with pics on these infamous shoes? now i really wanna see them! hehe :)
Jan 06, 2009 @ 01:54 am

I will review the shoes!

That's a good idea, Becky... I will review the shoes. I have about 10 days left in the return policy, I have not worn them outside, and I would love some opinions on them! :)

Thanks MissChickie, I kind of thought the same thing. I'm going to avoid his messages and see if he realizes what he's missing... if not... then there will always be someone else... someone better. Games are so old! I wish some guys would "man-up" and say what they mean!

BubblyBunny, I had decided not the wear them when/if I see him... well it had crossed my mind to wear them, to spite him, but then I'd be playing games too and I don't want to go there! I wish there was a way of letting him know his height doesn't matter to me without "showing all my cards", if you know what I mean. I don't want to get all mushy and "I like you, for you..." and "Your height doesn't matter..."... especially if he's not interested.

Sam2, I've asked a few of my guy friends and most say that they would not like to date a shorter girl, but none of them are really short so their options are vast. This guy is limiting himself, and missing out on a good thing (I might add) by disregarding anyone over 5'4"!!!

Stephb, you are right, the minute I start sacrificing my own happiness for a man then something is wrong!

Jan 06, 2009 @ 01:46 pm

that makes two of us....

"I wish some guys would "man-up" and say what they mean!"

I'd love to see the shoes too...pls put up picks...I'm new to this site and still trying to figure my way around...but I'll keep an eye out for the pics.

Btw...I have a colleague who is 5'4 and his g/f is around 5'7...and they are totally happy together...

I really like the advice on this site...very mature :-)
Jan 06, 2009 @ 02:42 pm

Review is up!

I reviewed my shoes! Please let me know what you think!

Boneca22, isn't it frustrating when all a guy has to do is tell you what is going on in his head!? Just say what's on your mind! We can handle it! Arg! Men! :)

I appreciate all the comments and advice! Thanks everyone!
Jan 06, 2009 @ 09:51 pm

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