on Nov 19, 2015 @ 09:13 am|
Being in a 6 year relationship things haven't been looking so good. I feel like we are a married old couple. Sometimes we don't even say goodnight to eachother before we go to sleep. Sometimes I feel like he's just a close friend. What are things I can do or we can do to spice it back up regain the first feelings we had for eachother? Any suggestions?
|. on Nov 19, 2015 @ 09:27 am|
How about organizing a weekly date night. No Excuses. Do something fun even if you are tired. Even a simple take out dinner with some wine at home. Stick to it. Make time for each others for at least that one night a week :) Good luck
|. on Nov 19, 2015 @ 01:15 pm|
I don't think you can ever get back the 'feelings' you had in the beginning. People evolve in relationships.
I've been with my hubby 15 years. I felt the same as you once. You have to work at a relationship but be realistic in your expectations. The feelings we feel in the beginning are stronger because it's new and exciting. That dies down when you get comfortable. Just don't get so comfy you become complacent. That's where the work comes in. Date nights are a great thing for long-term couples. If you still feel it's not working, try couple therapy before throwing in the towel. People give up on relationships too easily without realizing they will have to go through it all again someday with someone new.
|Fredamans on Nov 19, 2015 @ 02:10 pm|
I agree totally with fredamans, relationships change a lot when you're together for a long time. I read a really good article lately that I wish I could find for you about how 'slower' and 'less passionate' aren't always signs of a relationship gone bad, but that I love you changes in a marriage or long term relationship. People are busy, things get in the way.
That being said, if you're feeling unloved that's definitely not good! Take some time together to remember why you fell in love in the first place. Butterflies and things, don't tend to come back, but you should find a deep, abiding love in it's place.
Life is so busy we often forget until we put aside specific time. I would also talk to your partner about your feelings, as it takes two to put in the effort. Good luck!
|Sometimes We Have To Listen! on Nov 21, 2015 @ 12:42 am|
After a longer period of time you tend to overlook that special person in your life. Sometimes you have to make a decision, sit down write a like and dislike list read it burn it and move on!
Always say goodnight, never go to bed mad, always do sweet gestures even just a touch of there hand so they know you care about them.
Life changes in a second trust me I know, so cherish all the moments. Go for a walk together, plan a picnic, go to the zoo, things don't have to cost a lot when they come from the Heart! Good Luck!
|evolve on Nov 24, 2015 @ 07:43 am|
We are constantly evolving.
We've been through ups and downs, and had to make some major life changes last year after a major low. Now we're better than ever.
We say "I love you" every day, constantly touch and kiss, go out on sporadic date nights (even just cards at the pub), spice things up with new toys or costumes in the bedroom (or outside the bedroom), and most importantly - we laugh together. Always.
We've been together more than 8 years now (6 married), and I don't think I could of lucked out on a partner more suited for me.
Neither of us is perfect, but we accept that, and both of us compromise if we can't fully agree on something.