How did you meet?

Ali de Bold

Call me cheesy but I love hearing "how we met" stories.

Ours was fate. I posted the story here:

But I'm posting it here too so you don't have to click away...

Part 1: Kicked off Campus

I am originally from Winnipeg. About 8 years ago I was studying at the University of Manitoba and took on a part time job doing field marketing for a company with several clients including a new online textbook retailer for university students called ProfessorJones (now defunct). I promoted ProfessorJones on campus together with a small team I hired, and we handed out cd roms, put up posters and encouraged fellow students to buy their textbooks online instead of paying through the nose at the University bookstore. After a couple of weeks of intense promotion, we were kicked off campus because the university bookstore was upset about the competition and pulled out an old contract that said they had exclusive rights to sell text books on campus. The university paper wrote up a nice little ditty on the brouhaha here. They quoted me for it.

I didn't think anything more about that job until several years later...

Part 2: Living in T.O With The Roommate That Wouldn't Share

Shortly after my stint with ProfessorJones, I moved to Toronto by myself. I was working in the insurance industry as a claims adjuster, which I hated. I was very young, unconnected and underpaid. I knew I had much more to offer than assessing the value of a torn asshole from a slip and fall in a grocery store - yes, this was one of my files. One of the last. Despite the fact that I could hardly pay my bills, I put away 10% of my income every paycheque. After 3 years I had just enough to quit but didn't have the guts. I decided to downsize from living in my own jr 1 bedroom to sharing a 2 bedroom with a roommate. I found a beautiful apartment in Bloor West Village but didn't know anyone I could share it with. I told the landlord that I loved the unit but needed to find a roommate first. He mentioned that another tenant had a friend who was also looking for a roommate. We met later that week and realized we could stand to live together.

Part 3: Love at Second Sight

New Roommate had two guy friends help her move in. One of those guys was a somewhat grumpy but athletic looking guy named Alex. Our apartment had no air conditioning, we lived on the top floor with no elevator and it was 30 degrees outside that day, so understandably, Alex was no fun. We were equally unenthralled with each other.

Two months later we all joined a beach volleyball team and it turns out, Alex was not only the best player of the bunch, he was also a lot nicer than our first meeting. We found we had a lot in common. I didn't know much about him, but there were definitely mutual sparks. The Roommate saw the sparks. The Roommate didn't like the sparks. The Roommate said she didn't want her Roommate and her good friend to date. And so we didn't.

Part 4: Love Over a Bowl of Paella

Six months later, Alex threw a Paella night where he invited a bunch of friends over to share this traditional Spanish dish. He invited Roomie.... and me! By this time I realized Roomie was selfish in many ways and no longer cared if she was offended by me getting to know someone she had no intention of dating herself. He invited for 7. I came at 7. Everyone else came at 8. ... The Paella was delicious.

Part 5: Destiny

Two months later in casual conversation, Alex said, "well at my first company, ProfessorJones, we blah blah blah..." I nearly lost my lid. I said, "WHAT?! ProfessorJones?? I worked for you!!!" We immediately went online where he showed me his articles on ProfessorJones and I showed him my notorious affiliation.

He convinced me to quit my job and go back to school. We got engaged 5 months later and married 9 months after that. This May, we celebrate our 3 year wedding anniversary. Our anniversary as business partners follows shortly after.

Do you believe in God - Fate - Destiny now?
Feb 07, 2008 @ 10:57 am

6 Replies

Feisty Redhead

life-long friends

Aww I love how you and Alex met, Ali! That's so sweet and definitely fate! :)

There's not much to say about how my boyfriend and I met. We have been friends since before we could walk. He's always been my best friend and we've been through pretty much everything together. We finally became "us" last year. We didn't know it till we started dated, but we were talking and discovered that there was one day in particular when we were about 14 that we both realized how much we liked each other but we'd never acted on it, the timing was just never right.
Feb 07, 2008 @ 01:18 pm


Ali that is the cutest, most ironic story I have ever heard about two people meeting and falling in love. SOO sweet!
Feb 07, 2008 @ 07:09 pm

I know, I know...

I met mine online. I know what you are thinking...but we are a great couple and I am glad we met. I had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship and wanted to date and have fun. He messaged me on the site and wanted to chat. I don't usually give out my msn or my number that quickly or easily, but he was a PhD student, liked the same critical thinkers as me, and seemed well educated enough to warrant my attention. We talked for hours, and then met the next day for brunch, then drinks. It turned out we had friends in common, so next met with them. We continued to have great outings together, and then he got scared and emailed me breaking things off. I was crushed. I decided to quickly see other people to get over being crushed. That seemed to do the trick, as 2 weeks later he wanted us to be an item. I said no at first, as I was seeing another person, but then something wonderful and old fashioned happened: He went home to Belgium and I couldn't breathe! I missed him so much. And he felt the same. He called me long distance from Belgium to ask me to be his girlfriend, and I said yes. He promptly put me over to his dad and introduced them to me as his girlfriend. I then had to wait 6 weeks for his return, it was agony!

I never seriously thought I would find someone this great online...neither did he. But what can i say, we are perfect for each other, have met each other's family, and he is moving in - tomorrow! It has only been 6 months since we "officially" came together, but we have been inlove/indenial since May. And he asked me to marry him on the second date, so things are looking good (but of course I said no, what girl says yes without getting a ring?!).

Feb 08, 2008 @ 05:52 pm

Nothing too exciting...

We met at work, while I was still in training. He helped out my training class once we started taking calls (we work in technical support), and we would talk a bit during breaks. I ended up sitting with him one day when none of my friends were working and we started flirting, and that all I expected it to be (given his history). A week later we started dating. Our relationship shocked quite a few people. We were seen as extreme opposites. He was the guy that didn't want a relationship or care for them much at all, he was sarcastic, really outspoken, and came across as an ass to a lot of people. And for some reason I was attracted to him!
He was completely different one on one, than he was at work. He was a really sweet guy, when we first officially started dating, we want back to his house to hang out and he introduced me to his puppy, and I melted. He was so adorable with her!

We're still together over a year later, and he's still amazing. He's even become a lot friendlier to others than he was before. :P
Feb 08, 2008 @ 06:28 pm

Purdue University

We met during grad school in Indiana. We were both members of an outdoors recreation club called POC (Purdue Outing Club). There are 2 vantage points of our meeting and eventual hook up.

MINE: I was a new grad student and had just joined POC. I spotted him during one of the first weekly minutes and thought "Who's that!? He's hot!" But he was always flirty w/ other girls and seemed very popular in the club. Being the shy new girl, I admired from afar.

HIS: He was one of the cool, popular members of the club. He always noticed me at the back of the meetings and would think "Who's that!? She's hot!" But I would always leave right after the meetings before he ever had a chance to make his way back to me.

About 6 months later I began dating a different dude in the club ... and I learned that this dude's good friend was the hot guy! A bonus for dating this dude was to get to know the hot guy! :-) We became friends and remained friends even after the dude and I broke up. But nothing ever grew out of our friendship. He graduated and went on his way. I graduated and went on my way.

3 years ago we got back in touch via IM. We hadn't talked in about 2 years. Our friendship blossomed over IM. I was in CA. He was FL. After 6 months of chatting, he booked a ticket to CA to visit me. 9 months after that reunion, he packed his bags and moved to CA!! :-D He's been out here for 2 years now and we're getting married in October.
Feb 11, 2008 @ 05:28 pm
Ali de Bold


I love that story, Spotty. So sweet!
Feb 11, 2008 @ 08:03 pm

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