How do you know if a guy is really that interested in you?

Kazie

My guy friends often lament that girls are hard to pathom. One moment we like this, the next moment we fancy that. I think, however, that guys are even harder to understand.

So, the age-old question to guys, how differently do you behave to girls that you are really interested in?
Dec 19, 2006 @ 02:07 am

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grover

Behaviour

Me, personally, no different at all. Maybe a bit awkward if I really like here but that's just the lump stuck in the back of my throat. It's the same thing I think women want...if she's not into me for me then it's not really worth it. If I really like a girl, wouldn't I want her to stick around? If so, would I do anything to intentionally jeopardize it?

I won't speak for every guy because I'm sure there are guys out there who are two-faced and lie just to get into your pants.
Dec 23, 2006 @ 11:12 am
karmacake

It's men, not rocket science

Madonna has a brilliant philosophy that includes never fearing judgement.
I haven't given up trying to figure out guys, but, for me, the easiest way to understand if a guy is interested in you:

He enjoys being around you.

It's an amazing concept, and one we rarely want to hear. It's apparently much easier on us women to sit back and construct elaborate psychological examinations of everything guys do from the way they inflect words to how he simply forgot to hold the door open for you when you were walking to the movie theater.

Guys that are into you, will make you feel like you are a wanted person in their world.

But, stop trying to figure out if the guy is into you, stop "fearing judgement" and go look at yourself. Fuck, you're a woman, and beautiful because of it. Of course he likes you, and if he doesn't, does it really change the graceful length of your hands, the elegent curve of your lashes or the sultry pout of your lips?

no it really doesn't.

And, if he's not into you now, it doesn't mean he won't be later. Thing is, your too foxy to sit back and wait for a bloke to figure it out.

In closing, guys who are into you, want to be around you. Guys who aren't into you, don't.

I'm saying, don't try and figure out if they like you or not. If you're a good person, who wouldn't like you?
Jan 04, 2007 @ 02:14 pm
Slightly Devious

How I know a guy likes me....

In my experience, if a guy likes you, he will try to be around you as much as possible to get to know you. It will be him calling you to hang out or whatever, and you wont be waiting by the phone all the time, wondering if he'll call or not. Lots of eye contact and staring are also key. Don't bother with the one who plays games or is "unsure" of his plans for the weekend because he wants to make sure he's available for other girls. If he always cancels on you, or is unsure/never gives a straight answer- don't bother!!! If he wants you, he'll fight for you.

Be yourself, because it's not worth faking it. Why would you want to be with someone who likes only the fake you?

Also, confidence is key. I know it sounds stupid, but all guys say it. Just be confident and comfortable in your own skin. That's always sexy.
Jan 09, 2007 @ 12:00 pm
MulhallLover

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I think if a boy likes you he will say hey and not say,"um....i would like to do that!!'be cause that means they just want you for one thing and that is SEX!! Dont go for guys like that.
May 25, 2007 @ 06:08 pm
spotty

a good read

lath0013 and karmacake hit the nail on the head.. It really is all about the attention you are given and the company. If a guy is into you he WILL call and he WILL want to hang out, and etc ... Its just that simple. To echo karmacake, not only are women notorious for hyper-analyzing every guy's actions, we are also horribly known for making excuses for our guy. If you have to conjure up excuses in your mind to justify his behavior, its not worth it -- he's just not that into you.

So, w/ that, I'd like to call your attention to a book I read several years ago. Its called "He's Just Not That Into You -- The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys" and is authored by a writer and a consultant from "Sex and the City", Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. This book is a great read, it goes quickly, and its loaded w/ real love-life examples that we can all relate to.
Jun 06, 2007 @ 09:04 pm
MizzRobin

Good advice Spotty...

I completely agree with Spotty. With men, for the most part, it is simple.... 1+1=2.... women like to think there is some elaborate reasoning behind why men do the things they do. I see it this way, if he wants to hang out with you, he will, if he wants to talk to you, he will. All the other stuff is just silly games. I flipped through that book awhile ago, it's funny! :o)
Jun 07, 2007 @ 11:25 pm

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