If your man proposed via the mail, would you accept?

mamaluv

I read a story today that at first had me laughing but then made me thoughtful.

Yahoo! Sports is reporting that receiver Roy Williams of the Dallas Cowboys is currently suing his ex to get back his engagement ring. 

Apparently he sent her a marriage proposal and ring along with some souvenirs for her brother and some money to cover a few bills by mail... and she turned him down.  There's now argument about whether he told her to go ahead and keep the ring or not, but that's beside the point.

I wonder - if you were proposed to by mail (and let's remember that Williams was not serving overseas in the military or otherwise in a situation where he could not have done it in person at some point around the same time frame, or at least I assume), would you find that tacky or original?
Jul 07, 2011 @ 10:38 am

11 Replies

TammyK

Idk

I feel like it is a really sweet and different thing to do if it was done really creatively and you know that he had put a lot of effort into it to make it special. If he was just sending it over in a plain package because of the distance then I would not like it at all.

The article is quite funny though, how she turned him down...do you think she turned him down because of the way he proposed? What he did seemed to be just effortless since he sent the ring ALONG with money and stuff for her brother to pay bills. haha.
Jul 07, 2011 @ 10:43 am
GlamGal

HAHA!

That is funny. I wonder what other crazy ways girls get wedding proposals?
Jul 07, 2011 @ 10:44 am
beachbabe

Mixed

I agree with Tammy. If I was sent an envelope filled with a note, rose petals, a ring, etc. I'd think it was cute! But if it was sent with a couple souvenirs, bills or whatever else I'd feel like he was just like "Oh yeah, and marry me?" lol Which then I can't say I'd be too swooned over.

At the same time a proposal is a once in a lifetime thing and I think it's definitely nice to have that moment face to face. Maybe if he was able to organize getting it to her mail carrier and have the carrier ask her to open it right away while the boyfriend is waiting in the background for her to see the surprise? Then he runs up and asks her to marry him. That'd be much nicer!
Jul 07, 2011 @ 10:55 am
Ali de Bold

It's original at least!

And I think it's really sweet that he sent money to help with bills and a baseball for her brother. I actually feel bad for him that the article is judging him for the way he proposed.

Further, I don't think you should keep an engagement ring if you turn down the proposal - regardless of your reasons for saying no. The ring isn't yours unless you accept the proposal. If your answer is no, you don't get to keep the ring. That's just greedy.
Jul 07, 2011 @ 11:29 am
mamaluv

happened to a friend of mine

A friend of mine was dating a man from Europe in a long-distance relationship (they had met many times in person - this isn't an internet love story!). He sent her a ring by secure mail but had her dad intercept the package so that he could propose over the phone and only then did she see the ring. They are now happily married for 10 or so years.

I just think that based on what we read here (and it's of course not the whole story), it feels a little strange even if it's sweet. I think the vast majority of women would want a face-to-face proposal.
Jul 07, 2011 @ 12:05 pm
jskim07

I'd like that!

I kind of like the idea of putting it with daily things he sends you, to kind of catch you off guard!
BUT! I would need him to step it up with some game when he comes down to visit me :).
Jul 07, 2011 @ 12:09 pm
Becky

wow!

That he had to go to court to get his ring back is pretty sad and paints the girl in a very bad light!

As for the proposal style....well in one way its sweet. He sends money to cover bills, a baseball souvenir for her brother and the engagement ring with a proposal. It's like he's taking care of her, impressing her family, and by the by proposing. Pretty sweet, original, and good way to catch her off guard! :) Then again a proposal is a once in a lifetime thing, so it would have been even sweeter if he did all that, and somehow managed to come in person to receive her answer face to face. Meh....

Jul 07, 2011 @ 02:25 pm
Jonesha

It's definitely original...

...but who wants a mail-orderd proposal?
Jul 07, 2011 @ 06:40 pm
CassLemon

No way to deny the originality

Deffinatly Original... but its not the same kind of emotion.
Open mail. Shocked. Phone call yes! thats it... then you have to wait till whenever they decide to come over next..
In person is always more... well personal.
Jul 08, 2011 @ 12:33 pm
mamaluv

and after you've opened the envelope, what then?

I think it would be anti-climactic to have no follow-up for after you've opened the package. Shouldn't you be able to kiss your new fiance, or take things to the bedroom in celebration? Just sayin' ;)
Jul 08, 2011 @ 01:13 pm

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