Is clubbing the only place to meet girls?


Hi gals. I just came home from my weekly single outing, grocery shopping or bookstore shopping. As usual, I see those pretty asian girls but have no way of meeting any. I am just wondering if clubbing is the only way to talk to those asian girls in Toronto. Personally, I have never really been to clubbing. If anyone can guide me, I will really appreciate it. Thanks in advance.
Jun 28, 2008 @ 11:23 pm

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I used to go clubbing often but now I find it boring and a bit childish. And just because the girls are pretty doesn't mean they're nice. I know some girls that go clubbing a lot and they only meet guys so the guys can buy them drinks, or to make themselves feel good cause guys are hitting on them. They're not really looking for a relationship. They just want to have fun, gain some confidence, and get a free drink. Also, I wouldn't want my first meeting with someone to be when they're drunk. They may not even remember who you are.

There are many ways other than clubbing to meet girls. Through friends, volunteering for something you think is a good cause, join a fitness club like ymca, or sign up for a course that you are interested in. You can always talk to girls you see at a bookstore, during a bus ride or subway, some of them may think it's creepy though lol, but some don't. You'll never know until you try.

If you do go clubbing always dress nicely, not casual. Remember no running shoes and no hats. Don't let girls take advantage of you or you'll have no more money left in your wallet by the end of the evening. I have a lot of Asian girlfriends and I find that they can be very picky when choosing guys. If you get rejected try again and don't let that break your confidence. Try not to act like you're only there to meet girls. Just focus on having fun with your friends and if you do meet a nice girl then that's a bonus. If you only focus on meeting girls and it turns out you didn't meet many then you're only going to disappoint yourself.

Don't worry, the one that's right for you is out there but it's probably not the right time for you to meet her yet. Be patient and good things will happen.
Jun 29, 2008 @ 02:24 am


You two should just hook up.
Jun 30, 2008 @ 03:04 pm


I am sure pyto is in a happy relationship already. And this is NOT a DATING SITE.
Jun 30, 2008 @ 04:17 pm
Ali de Bold

NOT a dating site is right!

Unabashed flirts, cheeseballs cyber stalkers and pickup artists will be swiftly kicked out. ;)

See, we want to make sure everyone feels comfortable here :)
Jun 30, 2008 @ 10:58 pm


Loool, I'm surprised by this reply because I'm just trying to give advice and help. Also, I do have a bf and we have been together for 3 years now.
Jul 01, 2008 @ 12:32 am

In a word: No

No no no about clubbing! LOL, any guy that has ever hit on me at a club has been an instant "no way". Not because they were all particular ugly or sleezy. But it's just not the right place to meet someone. (Back in my clubbing days, I went there to dance with my friends and have an excuse to dress up pretty.)

I find the best way to meet someone is through school or friends or some other means were you actually have something/someone in common with. That way, you actually have a basis to start from when you have a conversation.

One big thing: get yourself out there but don't go with the intention of finding a girlfriend. It sounds harsh, but most girls can smell that from a mile away and they keep away from it. It's awkward to say the least.

I'm not sure if any of that helped but I hope it did. Best of luck!
Jul 01, 2008 @ 01:16 am
Ali de Bold


Oh no Pyto I didn't mean you were flirting! Your advice was awesome. I was agreeing with Hunter to anonymous' comment that this is not a dating site so they should not have taken your helpful comments in that way.
Jul 01, 2008 @ 08:20 am

agreed with psychoexgirlfriend

Guys (and girls) who keep whining about not having a significant other = not good, will not work, will bore AND annoy people and even potential significant others.

People are attracted to people who are comfortable in their own skin - whether single or in a couple.
Jul 01, 2008 @ 02:14 pm

good points ladies!

I agree with what Psychoexgirlfriend said with regards to if you go out with the intention of finding someone a girl can smell that a mile away! I also agree with Miaka in that people are attracted to people who are comfortable in their own skin. Pyto is right, when the time is right someone will come along in your life, you just have to be open to it!
Jul 03, 2008 @ 07:59 am

Everybody in the club gettin tipsy

When your young you have so many people around you that its almost impossible not to meet people to date. As you get older your life begins to get closed off because your time is spent at university or work or both. Clubs are great places to go have fun but horrible places to meet mates because the guys and girls who frequent them typically dont want a relationship.

Good Places:
Clubs or Church. Both of these places have like minded/compatible individuals attending. your more likely to find someone who "gets you" at a place you enjoy being at doing things you enjoy doing.

Work. Let me explain.. because i know some of you are saying NO WAY NEVER WORK :). If you meet someone at work who doesnt work under or over you i think it could be good. You get to spend more time with the person, car pool :) and when you talk about work the other person will be more likely to care about what your saying instead of ignoring you while they think about there own day at work. Work is a tricky sticky though.. you better move the relationship slow and make sure its what you want. One Neg about working together is that you dont get a whole lot of space from them. I usually dont need too much space so its fine for me but maybe not for you.

Online Dating. What i like about online dating is that most of the people doing it are serious about being in a relationship. Especially the paid sites like eharmony. These are people who are done playing and clubbing and finding themselves. If your honest in your profile and post current pictures you can be sure that the people who contact you are interested in you. And you get to decide if your interested in them before they rev an engine at you or start yelling at you from down the block saying "hey baby you so fine" :). Because lets be honest.. we all want engines rev'd at us and guys telling us were fine from down the block..but we only want it done by guys we want to do it if that makes sense. :)

Finally... the best way to attract the people you are attracted to is to become the person they are attracted to. If you want the hot sexy funny then you have to become the hot sexy funny.
Jul 03, 2008 @ 03:51 pm

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