Is he gay??


I been knowing him almost a year. I decided not to talk to him anymore cuz it felt like he wasn't ready for a serious relationship because we would only have sex and not go out and he would always be online on that dating site where we met So months went by and he contacted me wanted to see me again. So this time the issue was that I was already dating someone and this made him I guess eager to have me even more. So sometimes the way he acts makes me think his gay
It's hard to explain but I try to not think of it but it's like he takes better selfies then I do and sometimes they way he dances to music too. So you might ask how sex is it's freaking awesome he really makes sure I'm always okay and makes sure it's all about me. So he invited me to Hawaiian falls and I met his mom and his siblings. He was all over me very affectionate even when we were by ourselves. When we are always together he pretty much treats me like a princess. Idk how to ask if him if his gay.
Jul 14, 2016 @ 12:20 am

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I think in all our fears of our partner is that there's a possibility that they are gay. Other than the selfies and the dancing, what makes you think he's gay? Does he check out other guys? Does he always talk about fashion and things girls like to chat with each other? Do you feel like you are out with a girlfriend when you're with him?

I would challenge myself with those questions before jumping to conclusions. It might be just your fear getting the best out of you. I would figure out the facts first. I know it's hard when all you could think of, is he gay? I find that men now a days do a few things that are questionable, but it does not mean they are gay. It could be that he's comfortable with his sexuality?

I have been around my gay cousin and his friends (he's like my best friend) and there are tendencies which a straight guy could not do as in, always complementing on how a certain actress/singer/superstar dresses, how pretty she is, her hair is so nice, love the dress...things like that. Also, they rarely watch sports, if they do, it's just for the sake of watching but not obsessed. They love to party, like hard core partying. Cares about the way they look and dress. Those are some of the obvious that I could think of because I see it all the time when I'm around my cousin and his friends.

Give it some thought before you ask. If he's not gay or bi-sexual, he might be really offended by the question. Sometimes we chase away a good thing due to our fear. We come up with random excuses that the person is wrong for us.
Jul 14, 2016 @ 12:55 am

I agree

You couldn't have said it any better jujusamples!
Jul 14, 2016 @ 01:31 am

Just wait

It won't be a great idea to ask him on face if he is a gay. I don't think you can judge him on the basis of selfies and dancing. Is there anything else you noticed in him that shows he is a gay? Don't jump to a conclusion.
Jul 14, 2016 @ 01:59 am


People are not as afraid to be themselves these days, so his actions don't necessarily mean he is gay. He may be straight, Bi, or resonate with another identifier. 

When one of our acquaintances came out as Transgendered in their early 40s (a year after their daughter came out as transgendered), Husband and I asked (in a not-so-serious conversation) each other if they felt mis matched in our bodies or were interested in the opposite sex. We're good. 

I just wouldn't make a huge deal about it and bring it up in a casual conversation as opposed to a confrontation.

Jul 14, 2016 @ 09:05 am


Is there any chance he could already ahve a gf?
Jul 14, 2016 @ 09:10 am


I think if you think he could be gay, he probably is, there is nothing in particular but they act different. You already know but because you like him, you want to find excuses about it. Try to get over him. Good luck!
Jul 14, 2016 @ 02:55 pm


Okay so last night after we had sex he told me to scratch his back and then he goes you can scratch my ass if you want his like go ahead so I did then he was spreading his legs I was like please stop and he was like I just want you to grab my ball sack. One time we were watching a tv show and he comment on a girls cleavage saying I'm pretty sure she got a boob job. Idk I want to ask him I'm scared that I might get him upset him. When he met me he did get out from a 2yr relationship. So I was thinking if things gets serious because me and him aren't in a serious relationship cuz I just got out from a relationship.. I'm going to ask one of my gay friends to see if he is gay.
Jul 15, 2016 @ 02:50 pm

can't judge

you can't really judge by his SO has dance moves that would totally make you think he's gay but in all reality I'd be shocked if it even came down to bisexuality...
Jul 15, 2016 @ 04:38 pm

May be just sensitive guy

Not sure if he is gay based on what ur said. May be very effectionate and sensitive person. He treats u like a princess that what matters in my opinion. But do u feel like one with him? That s a different question. Sex is awesome and its good that he thinks about u.
Jul 16, 2016 @ 01:31 am


Just ask him. Worst case he says yes or he doesn't know. At least you will know.
Jul 16, 2016 @ 09:04 am

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