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is this actually normal???


I am in a relationship with my amazing boyfriend who i love dearly-for 3 years now...

I ama student and i have many many friends-boys and girls. Long story short...is it ok to have a crazy crush on someone? I do! BUT BUT i would NEVER do anything to hurt my boyfriend. Its just that this new guy is something different...we will never work though so i wouldnt try

I just feel bad that i am even admitting i have a crush
Aug 18, 2009 @ 10:31 am

6 Replies



Hey Anonymous,

To answer your question from my point of view, well I think it's totally natural to have a crush even if you are in a solid relationship. We are all human and like attention and flirtin or havin a lil secret crush on a new boy in town is totally OK.

The only time you should get worried is when you start to notice that this new boy is gettin more of your attention and time then your boyfriend. This is something only you can figure out for yourself, make sure you take some time and look at your realtionship and ask yourself if your gettin everything you need from it, if you answer is yes then this is just an inossent crush and feel free to get a few buterflys
Good luck

Aug 18, 2009 @ 11:43 am
Ali de Bold

It happens, but..

I think it's natural to notice other guys even when you're in a committed relationship, but if you want things to work out with your boyfriend you should avoid the crush guy.

If you allow yourself to get closer to him and spend more time with him, you are opening the door to cheat on your boyfriend.

If you do decide you want to explore things with the new guy at least make sure you cut your bf loose before you start anything out of respect for him and your relationship.
Aug 18, 2009 @ 03:50 pm


As long as you don't act on your feelings I find nothing wrong in having a crush on someone else...just try to keep your distance.
Aug 18, 2009 @ 06:57 pm

of course it's okay!

same boat as you chickie - my absolutely wonderful boyfriend of almost
4 years and i have a very strong and committed relationship. both of us
are flirts, but we are completely open and trusting with each other.
recently developed a rather large crush on a friend of mine, came and
went. of course it helped that this friend was geographically far away.

in any case, don't feel guilty. it's just a crush - and like you said,
you're not going to act on it. you have your priorities in line, which
is the important part. for me, i know what's at stake if i were to ever
go through with doing anything with a crush / doing anything about a
crush, and i'm not willing to put my relationship with my bofyriend on
the line.

chin up!
Aug 20, 2009 @ 09:48 pm

I do!

It's perfectly normal. I am so in love with my boyfriend (So in love I feel that he is the man I will marry one day), though I too have a crush on someone. This person and I have been friends for years and I really like and care for him. I have had a crush on him since the time I met him. Like you I know that it will never ever work out between us but I still maintain a friendship with my crush. We only hang out once every couple of months and it works really nice. We still get to be friends and see each other sometimes but nothing comes of it and I get to go home to the man I love.

It's definitely normal, it's all just what you make of it.
Aug 23, 2009 @ 11:24 am

Doesnt hurt to look

Dont worry hun its natural. As long as you dont act on it your fine. We've all been there. If you truly love your boyfriend then trust your instinct and do what feels right. Good luck
Aug 26, 2009 @ 08:15 pm

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