on Feb 01, 2009 @ 11:24 pm|
is it wrong to feel weird and uncomfertable watching a movie with ur boy friend/husband that has alot of sexual content in it...for some reason it bothers me. im a really jealous person when it come to him. i love him so much. i always have the fear of losing him to someone else or to some girl that he may or may not be talking to its just insane. i know for a fact he wouldnt cheat on me. and i know hes completly devoted to me, and loves me very much too. but every so often i get this really jealous vibe over me and i cant help it. ive read in some jealous books and stuff that the reason for jealous in a relationship is that u have to love ur self more. and be more comferable with you. but i dunno i have a hard time doing that as well. any suggestions =)
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|Bleh! on Feb 02, 2009 @ 10:44 am|
I'm the type that has no time or patience for Jealousy.. Jealousy is nice in very very small doses.
Jealousy creates more fights than it fixes.
I don't have a jealous bone in my body, but I wouldn't like being blatantly disrespected... but that's a whole new topic.
|Sorry Sam...but on Feb 02, 2009 @ 06:19 pm|
I don't believe that you don't have a jealous bone in your body.....everyone has some degree of jealousy in them.
I'll admit that I have been jealous before...but I know how to manage it pretty well.
|Don't be sorry :-) on Feb 02, 2009 @ 11:06 pm|
I really don't... Jealousy is a natural reaction that happens in pretty much all species in this world...
What I mean by saying that Jealousy works in all level and in all environments not just love...
Jealousy for a less attractive friend getting married before you
Jealousy for an undeserving co-worker getting a promotion
Jealousy of a person doing better financially then you are
Jealousy of a person getting more love by someone you love
I personally don't care about any of these things... If you're trying to make me jealous I don't get Jealous... I get mad cause why would you want to make me jealous for? for fun? for me to show you that you're special?
If me telling you that I love you, rubbing your feet, complementing you, listening to your stories, being mega romantic, ETC. doesn't show you that I think you're special, then I'll just be jealous all the time, and save myself all the friggen work...
But then of course the fights come because I'm not sweet enough or do enough things for you...
It's a never ending loop my dear... I personally like to come out on top, so I rather do the work, so that later on when you realized that I've left you because of your games, you'll kick yourself in the ass because now you're not getting half of what I use to give you.
Ali de Bold
|Not giving yourself enough credit on Feb 04, 2009 @ 04:38 pm|
I'm no therapist, but I really believe that most jealousy stems from not giving yourself enough credit. It's easy to look at others and compare yourself to them, but that means you are putting yourself beneath them.
The best thing anyone can do is focus on doing the best job you can with whatever you've got. Take care of yourself, work smart and focus on specific objectives rather than looking around at everyone else and measuring yourself against them. There will always be someone smarter, prettier, more successful, etc but focusing on them means you are putting less energy into doing the best you can with yourself.
|Am I Jealous??? on Feb 05, 2009 @ 01:11 am|
Accidentally, I found a message from my husband's facebook site telling a girl how pretty she is and calling him sweetie. He forgot to log off that's how I found out. Is that a sign that my husband is cheating on me? I was pissed and went mad. I confronted him and he was trying to cover it up. There has been so many instances that everytime I go in the room, he rushes to log off and erases all history searches. Please give me some insights.
|He's guilty. on Feb 05, 2009 @ 03:30 am|
well if hes trying to cover it up, then to me that sounds like hes guilty. not that i want to tell you that becuase thats horrible. but thats what it sounds like to me. if he wasnt hiding anything he would have told u something like that shes just a friend and he was trying to be nice or something to that effect but he tryed to cover it up. hes not being that honsest with you.
i think you need to sit down with him and have a indepth conversation. and get to the bottom of things. you cant live a lie. nor live a life of mystery. i hope things go better for you and him.
|reply to sam on Feb 05, 2009 @ 08:46 am|
Some would say that only sleeping with someone else is actually cheating. I disagree.
What your husband is doing is completely inappropriate because:
1. he's complimenting her and using cuddle names
2. he's hiding this from you
He may not think he's done anything wrong, but it is! Tell him to stop immediately, and if he refuses you have some hard choices to make. You don't know what he all has done, but from what you do know, it has already crossed a line.
|Reply to the other Sam on Feb 05, 2009 @ 09:10 am|
If he's not cheating on you right now, he's planning on to.
I started doing that with my last last girlfriend after she kept accusing me of cheating... After all the accusations, and crap I said... I might as well do it, cause if I'm going to get accused for something that I'm not doing, then I might as well do it get some pleasure out of it so that the bitching and the crap is justified.
That's why I say Jealousy is retarded...
Ali de Bold
|Judge them by their actions on Feb 05, 2009 @ 04:10 pm|
If someone is trying to hide things from you there is a good reason for it. This behaviour from your husband sounds totally inappropriate. There is jealousy from unnecessary insecurity and then there is jealousy that is justified.
Sam2, cheating on someone because you are tired of the accusations and figure you might as well get something out of it has got to be the worst reason I've ever heard for being unfaithful.
If you want to be with someone, you don't cheat. If you don't want to be with them, still don't cheat. Leave the relationship. End it with dignity.
|... on Feb 05, 2009 @ 09:15 pm|
I never actually cheated though... I was just saying that that's how I felt... I ended up breaking up with her... However; I did have a few hotties already lined up by the time this all happened. LOL