Long Distance Relationship


Really struggling in being close to my man. He's away at college and i'm still home. Having a hard time feeling emotionally close to him when we only get static-filled FaceTime calls. What could we do to keep the love alive?
Nov 05, 2012 @ 09:02 pm

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its hard work

I've been in a long distance relationship for 2 years, and I know its not easy. You have to make sure you make time for eachother. If you dont have that much to talk about anymore, find other things to do when you are both online, like play a game, or watch a movie. Set up dates for when you are going to see eachother again (like xmass break) so you have something to look forward to. Also, it helped to send eachother pictures. Even though you can see eachother on webcam all the time, taking some pictures to send to him later will allow him to look at them later when he misses you and you are not around. Try to keep the person included in your life as much as you can.
Nov 06, 2012 @ 02:31 am
Miss K

hard work, but can be worth it!

I've been in a long distance relationship, he lives overseas so on top of being away there was also a 7 hour time difference between us. So that song that simple plan put out a while ago, it was really like that ("I wake up to your sunset")

There are plenty of things to do to keep romance alive and feel close:
Have a coffee date together (to do this both of you go to the same coffee shop chain like starbucks or another one with good wi-fi and an atmosphere that is replicated no matter where you are) then sit and have coffee together, I've done it a bunch of times and it's a great way to feel like you're sitting at the same table.
Watch movies together - just make sure to start at the same time.
Take photos of places you will be showing him when you're finally together...and in general cool things you see throughout the day. Have him do the same so that you feel like you know what's happening with him
Share music, share silly moments, most importantly realize that most of the fighting that may happen is simply because you really miss each other.
Definitely keep track of when you'll be seeing each other next...I don't really suggest counting down, it may drive you crazy!
Write letters, real pen on paper letters, spritz them with your favorite scent or send a shirt (or some other article of clothing) that smells like you. (You will need to overspray it quite a bit if you want the scent to last for a while)....have him do the same.

I would also advise you to look at this realistically and think of when you will be together in the same area code for longer than a visit. I'm not saying this adventure isn't worth it, but if there is a whole lot of bureaucracy standing in your way of being together....think about if you're willing to go through all that...

Happy loving!
Nov 07, 2012 @ 04:52 pm

If it's worth the wait...

Then wait! All I can say is that if you believe that this relationship is worth both the sacrifices being made for it and the wait until you two are together, then keep on keepin' on!
I am in a long-distance relationship currently, and it's been that way for 4 years now. I am a lot younger than my fiancé, but I know that he loves me and I love him and even though I miss him greatly and sometimes when I need him, he can't be there due to the nature of his job. I know that when I feel horrible, he is the first one to make me feel better, and when I feel like falling, he will be there to catch me. All you need to do is step back, and really look at your relationship as if you were on the outside looking in. What would you tell yourself in this situation?
Nov 09, 2012 @ 03:20 am

Stay Strong

Hi Bethany,

I too am in a long-distance relationship like the rest of these ladies, though I'm the one in college and my man stayed at home. We are about 2.5 hours away from each other.

As you know, LDR are not easy, but the best thing you can do is put in 110%. If you are both making a huge effort to make times for each other then it can work! Just be strong! Definitely skyping and video calling helps a lot, I try to skype my man every 2 days just for a bit of that face-to-face contact. Texting and communication throughout the day also really helps to feel like the other person is there with you. Plus, being in college it's nice because there are reading weeks and breaks where there is time off to go home and re-connect. I agree with anjanie, sacrifices must be made but if you think it's worth it then everything will work out. Think about it this way. If he's in college for 3 years and you stay together those 3 years think of how strong your relationship will be afterwards!! Nothing will be able to break you. And remember, you're in this together. I'm sure your man is feeling the exact same way and as long as you're both making the effort, fairy tales do come true!!
Nov 15, 2012 @ 10:44 pm

Good to hear!

My boyfriend is moving for work tomorrow morning and i was a little panicked as to how things would work. It makes things a little easier hearing the stories of people that are currently in a good LDR. Thanks ladies :)
Jan 21, 2013 @ 11:12 am

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