Long distance relationships?

kathleenpilon

Are you in a long distance relationship? If yes, how long and how is it working out for you? Is it hard? Do you have any tips or recommendations to those in a long distance relationship? Let me know how you feel!

BridgetJones

Define "Long Distance"

How far away are you from and how well do you know each other? How did you meet?

timetogloww

LDR

Trust, making time for one another to do things like FaceTime and text and chat on the phone. Having an end to the LD aspect as a goal.

Shystarr79

:)

My current husband and I had a long distance relationship. We weren't super far though. He lived in Ontario and I lived in Montreal. We texted everyday, all day, sent videos and photos. Although we never met we had deep, intense feelings for eachother. We started talking in January and In April I hopped on a train to see him and stayed with him for a week. Since my job at the time was a hospital job and I only worked on call I was able to remove myself from the recall list and go see him which I'm very grateful to have had a flexible job. It was imediate love and passion. I felt like we knew eachother forever. Its rare for me to feel so comfortable with someone cause I am very shy. I visited him for one week for the next five months and then in he decided he couldn't take the distance and he moved to Montreal to be with me. I would have moved there but I had a teenage son that I wanted to finish high school with his friends. Now we have been togethere for almost six years. We have a 3 1/2 and 2 year old girl and now I'm pregnant with a baby boy due in November. I am so happy everything worked out like this cause we met on a dating site but thankfully it worked in my favor. I never thought I would find the one and it took me a long time but I am happy. I'm glad I never gave up even thought it would have been easier to find someone in my own city.

Rubyrosebuds

Long Distance Love over the Years

Hello, My husband and I have been in the military now for over 3 decades. We are very often living in distant cities from each other (military bases). I've been with him for 21 years and of those years, we've only been together for 11 of the years. I was transferred to Europe while he had to stay to work in Canada for 3 years. Then I was in an entirely different province for 1 year, and another 3 years separated by a 6 hour drive (not near airports).
Is it hard - yes. We talk almost every night over Skype. But it feels like I am missing out on doing things with him. And when he does come home, he has the "honey-do" list that makes time go by very quickly. These are things like repair the carburator on the snowblower for instance. Other things I had to learn to do myself and became very quickly independent.

I think that the key to a long distance relationship is to keep the communication channels open. If you are very young it can be harder I feel because there are many other possibilities around you for a relationship with a person who can be part of your life on a daily basis. But if you are sure that person is "the one" then it's important to talk and communicate regularly - also sending little surprises via snail mail has been one of my tricks. And when you are together, carve out special time doing things that will build memories.

Babs_a_lot

Been There

I think long distance relationships are a waste of time. I tried it once and we seemed to be so in sync. We skyped every night texted all day long and it felt so real... Until we spent more than a day together. We didn't really jive I found out and all that time wasted
I recommend anyone planning on uprooting their lives for someone they met online, to take a couple weeks vacation to visit them and see how being together for more than a few days works. Anytgign seems idealic when you spend just a couple days loving on each other. Also don't ignore warning signs. If he seems to good to be true, he is. Everyone has flaws and quirks you don't like. No one is your perfect person.
Now for anyone who thinks that none of the above applies to them or for the vey small percent of people who are in a long distance relationship that will actually make it, we use to play games or watch a movie on hangouts together (Idk which others sites you can do so in) we camped outside one night with our laptops and that was surprisingly fun. You just have to get creative
5 years ago I met the love of my life in the town I live it because I went out and started trying to meet people and got off the messenger and chat areas and put my computer away. I wanted substance and someone to feel and I am so happy I did
Like I said yes I know some work out but most don't but if you are all in just be careful and listen to your gut always
Good luck and I am not being negative or critizing anyone, this is just my opinion on it

lovvemai

Several

I have met and dated so many interesting men over the years.. long distance absolutely can work. My best relationship was with a man in Germany. We were both committed and had a LOT of fun exploring his country and my province. It’s all I. The attitude of what you both want in the end! 💕💕

Emmajones1921

Long distance relationship

I had a long distance relationship for a while and it absolutely killed me being away from him. I just couldn't handle it. I pined for him all the time! We spoke on the phone whenever we could but it just wasn't the same as being together. I'm sure it could work for some people but for me it didn't, he packed his life up and we have been living together for 11 years now! As long as you're both happy then do what's best for you both 💕

Staceyhebden

I was

I was in a long distance relationship and I couldn’t make it work. We both tried but in the end the travel distance and lack of seeing each other took its tole.

Terezia

Long distance for 2 years

It can be very hard at times but the main thing is to know that they’re there for you! Make sure you create a plan of when you’re both seeing each other and stick to it. Whilst also FaceTiming and calling or watching movies together over FaceTime it can freshen things up even when long distance. Best advise I can give is do your thing and focus on yourself, enjoy your hobbies for the time being and when you’re together it will be the best!