on Aug 11, 2013 @ 06:47 pm|
Anyone out there have a teenage daughter or has had one please help me...lol
She has a bf now and is soooo "in love." I have talked to her about sex, relationships and periods since
she was quite young ( making up for the info. my mother didn't share with me)
When I talk to her about sex now she becomes aggravated and reminds me that she is not a slut.
What do I do now? I don't want her to make the same mistake I made.
Any teenagers out there, I would appreciate your advice as well.
Thanks in advance!!
|Trust her on Aug 12, 2013 @ 03:53 pm|
No matter what you do, if they want to have sex they're going to find a way, and it seems like you've done everything you can do if you've reminded her to never feel pressured and that she's still very young to be having sex, had the talks, etc. At some point you do have to trust that she's taken in what you've said and that she can make her own decision wisely. Hopefully she trusts you enough to tell you if they are having sex and if so she should be on birth control and be using condoms. Obviously have some supervision at your house and make sure she's not out too late. Otherwise like I said, hopefully she's been prepared enough to make a smart decision and the one that's right for her.
|trying to trust on Aug 12, 2013 @ 07:29 pm|
Thank you for you insight. Although this will be the hardest thing I have ever had to do, I have to trust her.
Your right, I hope she will trust me enough to tell me.
Thank you again MaryMarie :)
|Don't be an OPP on Aug 12, 2013 @ 09:56 pm|
When I was a child, we used to call Overprotective Parents "OPP". I was from a really strict household and eventually I grew to rebel. The best thing you can do is be open and trust. Be open and let her know you do not want her to hide things from you, but also trust her not to do it. Chances are, if she has trust she will be less likely to break the rules. If the time does come and she tells you that she is, you just have to be supportive and make sure she is using correct protection so she does not end up with a child at a young age. Ensure she knows safety and the dangers and risks of pregnancy and STI's.
|no coppers here on Aug 12, 2013 @ 11:01 pm|
Thank you for your insight into this matter. You are right, I am and already have backed off a bit.
|.... on Aug 18, 2013 @ 11:40 pm|
Tough subject, personally when I was that age I never had any interest in being sexually active, my mom was upfront and honest with me which I guess for me kind of took away the whole intrigue of the matter. I find a lot of young girls, because their parents are so strict and over protective, are more drawn to the idea simply because it's 'off limits' much like alcohol/drugs. Kids these days I find are very over-sexualized from a young age. If you teach them right from wrong and give them all the information the only thing you can do is hope they make the right decision for themselves
|Hard to say on Aug 22, 2013 @ 04:43 pm|
I'm a high school teacher and I agree with mollymarie, if teenagers want to have sex they will find a way to do it. I know some kids started having sex at like 11 years old.
It sounds like from her reaction that it is best not to push her anymore so it's good that you're backing off. I think the main thing is to make sure she's well informed of everything - birth control, condoms, pregnancy, STIs. Hopefully they teach this at your school too.
Another suggestion I have is to meet her b/f. Get a vibe to see if he's a jerk or not. And at 15, a lot of guys are jerks and will just want sex. But there are good guys out there too. It's difficult to say. I know so many students at that age and hear what they talk about and a lot of it is pretty crazy stuff...