not "manly" enough!!!!


I love my boyfriend! I really really do! He treats me like a queen! Spoils me! I never hear no! And makes every attempt to make evry day together special! We moved in together after just 8 months of dating & I slowly started noticing things I hadn't before.  My boyfriend is so0o0o0o feminine!! EXTREMELY feminine! Feminine to the point I had to question his sexuality a few times.  When we argue, his voice gets reallyyyyy high pitched.  I noticed this the other day & wanted to RUN !!!!! Sometimes his jeans are tighter than mine.  HE has no handyman in him at all ! whatsoever!! I make all the decisions! He's the first to back down.  He wears these stupid 1/2 gloves.  When he takes pics he poses super feminie, pouts his lips and puts his hand behind his head.

Ive never dated anyone like this!!!!!!!!!!! Everything else is perfect !!! But sometimes I feel like I don't respect him as much as I should.  Am I just to used to dating the bad boy and treating a really really good guy wrong? Or is this something I really cant overlook that will just get worse w/ time>? help please!
Feb 02, 2013 @ 08:53 pm

13 Replies

Ali de Bold

Uh oh...

I'd be a bit concerned. I think you should always trust your instincts. He may be totally straight and just have some flair to his personality but then again maybe it's more than that. Either way if you no longer feel he is the man for you, don't prolong the inevitable. I think you really need to be 100% sure about someone before moving in together. It's a lot messier to break up when you share the same roof.
Feb 03, 2013 @ 12:34 pm

Well now!

I agree with Ali about trusting your instincts. Maybe it's just his personality, and nothing else - which is harmless, but if you are looking for more of a "manly man", then I would probably end the relationship sooner than later. The last thing you want to do is waste each other's time.
Feb 03, 2013 @ 06:40 pm


Thanks guys!

After a lot of thought, I actually eneded it today. My father is in Iraq and will be coming home soon and honestly, I was really worried about what my father would think of him. I knew right then that I had to do something about it. Now the next obstacle is gonna be moving out. Im sad but I know I made the right decision.

So much for Valentines day huh? lol

Feb 03, 2013 @ 09:22 pm

Sorry to hear!

But sounds like you made the right decision. Hope everything works out for you!
Feb 04, 2013 @ 01:07 pm

Not Feeling = End It

I think regardless of how he acts, talks etc. the bottom line is and this is relevant for any relationship, that if you can't see a future, if you aren't attracted or you simply aren't feeling it, then end it.
Feb 04, 2013 @ 01:16 pm
Ali de Bold

Hope you are both doing ok

Breakups suck. But, I think it sounds like you did the right thing. It's hard to be a good girlfriend to someone that you don't respect anymore for whatever reason. I'm sure he sensed your disappointment and you will both be better off in another relationship. Big hugs to you and don't worry about Valentine's Day. It's really overrated and I think many couples don't even do much about it.
Feb 04, 2013 @ 02:05 pm

^ agreed about v-day

Very overrated! Single girl power whoo!
Feb 04, 2013 @ 02:29 pm

Good decision

Well done, sweetie. It's very hard to make that kind of decision. My boyfriend just moved in this week. I hope I don't learn new things about him that I didn't notice before. I am a little nervous about losing my "me" space and sharing my home with someone else. But so far so good... all 7 days! lol

Enough about me... back to your situation. Hope you are doing ok. Know that you have made the right decision. Gut instincts are rarely wrong. Take care.
Feb 06, 2013 @ 06:34 pm


Yessss! thanks ladies! we remain friends and we're trying to figure out some kind of dating situation, but the relationship is over. I feel really bad because he's still very much in love, as am I...and we have so much fun together. Who knows?! maybe the space will make me see him in a new light... maybe he can show me something different...and most of all...maybe I'll do some growing up. At the end of the day, hes an individiual and I should love him for who he is AS WELL as who he isnt. Ay ya yiii!! thanks for your input ladies!

In my thoughts!

Feb 08, 2013 @ 05:35 pm


Whatever happens is whats meant for you girlie. Great empowerment to act on your inhibitions!
You go girl!

I am single on Vday too, not to worry! Im gonna treat myself better than any dude can! And so should you!
Feb 12, 2013 @ 10:07 am

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