Older guy...

Anonymous

I recently started seeing an older guy.. we have been together for almost a year, I am 22 and he's 49 I know this might seem fucked up, and if anybody knew we would be hated for it. I really do love him and he loves me and I know he cares a lot about me. every time I've been in trouble he has been there and helped me through everything. thank god for these masks I can walk around with him not caring cause people wouldn't recognize me if they have seen me with him anyways. we get some stares before but at this point, it's the last thing I care about. I always want to be with him but our age gap is stupid and there's no way I can be with him. my family would never be okay with this I would be disowned. we work together it's hard enough acting like nothing goes on but whenever we can we kiss and it feels so right. is there something wrong with me for loving an older man?

fredamans

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I'm with a man 9.5 years my senior. We've been together 20 years. While yours is a bigger age gap, only you two can decide if your relationship is worth it or not. There will always be haters, no matter if you're together 2 minutes or 20 years. Pick your path and travel it.

Broken_Bliss

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As long as you are both consenting adults and there is no one in a position of power over the other (so he's not your boss or teacher or someone else who would have authority over you), it is no one's business but your own and age shouldn't matter.

If he treats you well and clearly cares for you, then who cares what anyone else thinks? It is up to you to decide who should be in your life.

My sister-in-law's husband is 20 years older than her. At first her parents were really upset by the age difference. Then they got to know him, saw how well he treated their daughter and how happy they were together. They love him now and they have been married for 19 years.