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Pets - when to say goodbye


I put this under relationships because for manu of us our relationships with our animals are just that - relationships. Mine was a love affair with my dog, a beautiful malamute I rescued three years ago. She was the best thing that ever happened to me.

Last week she got sick rather suddenly, and I rushed her to the vet, but other than making her comfortable there was nothing they could do (that was under $5,000 and had a guarantee of survival). It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but I made the choice to end her suffering. Nothing has been quite the same since, and I still cry, but i do not doubt I made the right choice - better to die pain free that suffer a few more days.

My collegue is having problems also with her dog. he is old and cannot control his bowel movement, and has diahrrea all over her house. As a result she has to contain him to a certain area in the house, and clean up after him every night. She works full time, goes to school part time, and has children to look after. She says she is torn, as she only believes in putting an animal down if they are in pain.

My question to you is where do you stand on this? Do you put an animal down because he is old and you cannot handle him? Or does he need to be in pain first?
Nov 06, 2008 @ 10:54 am

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I have had 'losing Taz' nightmares since your call that morning Nessie. I am very sorry for your loss. I agree that pets are like family...I treat Taz better than most!

I think you have to do what is best for your pet with regards to putting them down or paying for surgery. I think when it comes to pets you have to treat them like children that cannot talk and tell you what to do. If they are not comfortable or in pain then do what is humane. A vet is always the best bet for advice on this. If you disagree or question what your vet is saying, I would get a second opinion. Owning a pet is like being a parent, it is best to do what is responsible and what is in the best interest of the animal.
Nov 06, 2008 @ 12:16 pm


Nessie I am so sorry to hear about your loss. A pet is like your baby or a family member.... I can't imagine losing my dog. She's like my 3rd sister!

I agree with MizzRobin, you need to do what is best for your pet. If he or she is in extreme pain and there is nothing you can do... the only option may be to end their suffering. I would get a second opinion however if I was questioning what the vet had suggested.

Not sure if I agree on putting down an animal just because you cannot care for the animal anymore. Pets are family... and you wouldn't do that to a family member just because you cannot care for them.

All the best, Nessie! I hope you feel better soon. Take care and be well :)

Nov 18, 2008 @ 09:03 pm

so sorry

Nessie, sorry for you loss. {{HUG}} Losing a pet is never easy and is always sad. Take some time to grieve for your loss. I don't have much advice for your question. I've not owned a pet as adult. But as a child we had a lot of pets and if a situation got hard/questionable, my mom was always home to look after the pet until it became clear that it was time to say goodbye or that it was getting well. Being overextended, like your colleague, would most certainly make the situation a very tough judgment call.
Nov 19, 2008 @ 12:26 pm

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