Hi guys,I desperately need your help. I can't talk to my friends about this becuse they will just end up judging me and I don't know who else to talk to...
So I met this guy online on a dating website. He got in touch with me and we exchanged some emails before deciding to meet last Friday. The date started off well and we were having a great time. He was saying the nicest things and asking the right questions and making me feel good. We were quite drunk by the time he drove me back home and kissed me when I was about to get off the car. I was drunk too and I liked him and responded. We ended up fooling around in his car and then he went back home. On Saturday he wanted to meet again and we did meet for dinner and this time we went back to my place, got drunk and ended up doing it. He had quite a lot to drink before that and spoke about his ex-girlfriends who had hurt him and how he wants to move on and doesn't know if he can. The next morning we chatted for a while and then he left. The whole week he did not bother texting or calling and now he wants to meet up again today.
I am so confused at this point. I really really really like him but by the look of things it looks like he is just in it for a weekend hook ups right? And I am not okay with that. But a part of me wants to believe that he is actually interested and wants to date me. What do I do? How do I know if he likes me or not?
Feb 18, 2012 @ 10:14 am

6 Replies


Just ask

I would probably just straight up ask him, are you serious about me or am I just weekend fun to you? There's nothing wrong with knowing where you stand.
I also don't think there's anything wrong with hooking up with a guy very quickly, a lot of women do it and they do have a good lasting relationship with the guy.
It does look a bit like he just wants fun though, if he hasn't bothered calling all week, but you really won't know unless you talk to him about it
Feb 18, 2012 @ 11:51 am


I agree with the above. Just ask him. establish what you're looking for and see what and ask him the same.

Next time try to not get drunk and have a normal night with no funny stuff and see how he responds. Just have a good time and don't go home with him. If he's standoffish after that or pressures you to come home with him then it'll give you an idea that he's more interested in hooking up then getting to know you.
Feb 18, 2012 @ 12:16 pm


I agree with luxx and anonymous, just ask him. It's not unreasonable to want to know where you stand with him.

And if you spend some time getting to know each other without the alcohol, then you can see if the chemistry is still there. Any it might help in avoiding getting carried away! :)

Feb 18, 2012 @ 04:19 pm

honesty and communication

Talking to him, like the girls are saying, is likely the best course of action. A LOT of things could have happened or be going through his mind. Maybe he had a rough or busy week? Maybe he is scared because he likes you too but is scared of getting hurt again?

If you really like this guy and think there could be something you have to get the communication out. Talk to him and be honest about how you have felt. When you expose yourself he might feel more comfortable talking to you.

In the end, being yourself and honest will let you both figure out what you want. If he does just see you as a weekend hook up - at least you will know and can make the right decisions for you at the time.

Good luck and post back what happens!!
Feb 24, 2012 @ 11:30 pm

get awayyy

i think that i would ask him too but im not sure if he would tell the truth.. i really know how you feel cz i've been there! i believe that you should get away from him asap! he maybe a good guy and he probably likes you but it doesnt seem to be the right moment for you.. bringing up the ex-girlfriends issue means that he didnt get over it and you'll be in a very difficult position to "sooth" his heartache! and as fas as my experience tells me you get to pay for his ex's mistakes!! hope ive been helpful!
wish you best of luck!
Feb 25, 2012 @ 04:24 am

Be firm

Tell him you want to know what is up, and get the truth. Be kind of bitchy if you have to. After all, it is your body and your emotions that matter.
Feb 27, 2012 @ 11:44 am

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