Ruined my friend's chance with a girl.


I am being blamed for ruining my friend's courtship with a girl i introduced to him. All my friend says that i shouldn't have asked the girl how she and my friend was doing or how she felt about him. Well i and the girl is friends. So we chatted and stuff and i was concern with my friend. So i asked how they are doing and ask what she thought of him. I didn't know she would tell my friend our conversation.
Now all my friends are blaming me for ruining it for them and it includes the girl i really like. sigh... Well i have no chance with the girl i like anyway.

So what do you guys think about procedure of setting friends up. Cause i have many other single guy friends.
Jan 31, 2008 @ 01:10 pm

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My opinion...

If you just asked her how she felt about him and her opinions, I don't think you would have ruined his chances with her. If she responded negatively about him to you, chances are she felt that way before you asked. If you were the one to say negative things about him to her that made her change your mind, then yeah, maybe you would be at fault. But really...if something negative was said about him that made her change her mind, in the long run, it's probably good it happened now, rather than her finding out months in to the relationship and ending it then.

I'm not to big on setting friends up, because if it doesn't work, I wouldn't want to have to pick sides in the end.
Jan 31, 2008 @ 07:26 pm


Yeah I was just trying to get a feel of what was going on. Nothing negative about him was said. So I didn't know why my female friend would tell my guy friend about me asking her.
This is actually the first time i set people up. It used to be me trying to keep all the girls to myself even if i don't like her. Oh well.
Jan 31, 2008 @ 10:29 pm


Why set up someone up w your friend if you like her and then ask her out when things dont work out? That's dishonest and actually kinda creepy.

U should focus on being the best person u can be and less on trying to meet someone. From many of your posts it sounds lke this is the main thing on your mind to the point of consuming. If u can step back and work on u and believe in yourself u will eventualy meet someone naturally without u needing to force it. Dont mean 2 b harsh, just what I think frm what I've read.

Jan 31, 2008 @ 11:31 pm

im not getting this

is the girl u lke part of your group of friends?not the girl u set ur friend up with?coz if they are two different people then your friends are uhm,not to be nasty either,but kinda silly.theres no harm in asking a girl how she feels bout her bfriend at all
Feb 01, 2008 @ 06:10 am

Stay out of it

I would just stay out of it all together. You can set really good friends up with people if you know them really well and think they would be a good match. In this case though it sounds like you were not setting them up but asking one friend about what they thought about your other friend. The way you described it does not sound like a big deal but if all your friends are blaming you they are either being unreasonable or something was taken the wrong way. If they were already talking or getting to know eachother then it is best to stay out of it.
Feb 01, 2008 @ 08:24 am
Feisty Redhead

I don't get it either

I try to stay out of my friend's love lives - getting involved just makes things messy. I don't see why this is a big deal for your friends, based on the info you've provided on the situation. If that's all there was to it, then your friends are overreacting and he probably didn't have a chance with her anyway if that was all it would take for things to be "ruined" for them. It's possible that there was a misunderstanding along the way, or there's more to the situation. Hard to say but again based on what you've said it seems to me that your friends are being overly dramatic and making a big deal of nothing.
Feb 01, 2008 @ 06:40 pm

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