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Sex Life

Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. Our sex life has almost diminished to maybe once a month, and that normally ends up as sex in the shower after the gym. We are both truly busy, and crash at night but there has to be something. How did you get out of a funk? What did any of you ladies do to help you feel sexy again? My boyfriend often searches up actresses, and looks at their pictures which makes me feel inadequate and undesireable as I don't normally receive acknowledgments or compliments from him. He searches for naked women, and watches porn, but doesn't reach out to me. We have talked about it, and he becomes frustrated saying he's often just too tired. In the past I have tried to not let it bother me, and play around a bit and offer something to him, but then nothing in return is received. It's becoming lonely. 
Apr 11, 2017 @ 12:44 pm

19 Replies

Anonymous

sex life

This sounds so sad.If that was me I would think that the love is just not there anymore. BUT that is me. My only suggestion is to talk about it and bring it out into the open. Ask him how he feels about you because you feel lonely and inadequate. He has to know how you feel. Noone is that busy to share their love. If he has time for porn and naked pics, he has time for you
Apr 11, 2017 @ 01:23 pm
laura2423

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Im a firm believer in talking about things when something is bothering you in a relationship. So tell him exactly how you feel about all of this and see what he thinks.
Apr 11, 2017 @ 01:29 pm
R3Bean

sex life.

I'm sorry to hear that. Life has so many pressures and sex should be something to destress. But it happens life sometimes becomes so routine that its almost forgotten about. Work on it
Some things that can help are taking time to relax & unwind power off the electronics and have a cuddle time with wine, a fire .. Make his favorite meal candle light dinner..
give each other a massage.
If its become so humdrum perhaps see a counselor.
Apr 11, 2017 @ 01:32 pm
danaorgnero

So sorry.

This post makes me so sad. The best advice I can give is to talk to your boyfriend again and get everything off your chest. If he's making time for porn he can absolutely make time for you. My hubby and I lead busy lives and are intimate easily four times during the week, sometimes more. We look forward to that time together.
Apr 11, 2017 @ 02:08 pm
Shystarr79

:)

I definitely agree with all the previous posters. You need to talk to him. If you're sex life has went down this much after only three years together what will it be like in another few years. I'm down to three times a week and for me that is a big cut back but I guess still fairly healthy compared to lots of other couples. We always find time but we have to work around my daughter's schedule but for us we have a love and attraction and we both find a good sex life is important. Maybe if he enjoys watching porn you could watch porn with him or visit a sex shop together and pick out toys. There's always costumes as well. There's so much things you can do to spice up your sex life so it doesn't become monotonous.
Apr 11, 2017 @ 04:02 pm
glennymah

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As it was suggested previously, you definitely need to talk to him and try to see how to work this out between you two. Maybe spice it up and commit to booking a weekend off and doing a sexcapade with no electronics. Or Maybe you could try to randomly perform foreplay on him when he least expects it and just act like horny teens again. If he has time to browse through porn and naked women - he has time to put aside to get head or even simply having sex. :) I'm hoping it all works out for you :)
Apr 13, 2017 @ 12:49 pm
Mfornalik

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I would suggest as all the others to talk to him. My man and I both work away from home, so finding time can be hard. We work 12 hour days, plus travel time, and it's 8 days in a row for me and 14 for him. I get the busy schedule. But we make the time. Sometimes at night it's too hard so we opt for the morning, wake up a bit earlier. We send each other messages so we both know we are thinking of one another.

When we first started out it was daily, sometimes more than once a day, and now it's maybe once a week depending if we are both away or not. But other times its more. But we are super open about it.

Wishing you some luck and satisfaction soon.
Apr 14, 2017 @ 10:58 am
Anonymous

Try a game!

I would approach him about it and tell him you need more intimacy from him. I had friends who were having this issue and they decided to challenge themselves to have sex everyday and see how many days in a row they could keep the streak going. After hearing about this, a few of the other couples in our friend group also wanted to see if they could make a streak and they were even competing with eachother! lol Or i've heard of people trying to see if they could have sex every day for a month straight. It might light the fire again!

Another thing to do is to have a weekend escape and rent a hotel room! Sometimes if you're just at home its easy to sit in front of the TV and then just go to bed and forget about the romance. If you have the room in your budget, plan a weekend away!
Apr 14, 2017 @ 07:50 pm
Pink4Opera

<3 <3

I’m sorry you’re feeling low about this!



As every relationship evolves differently, it
seems like it is making you question your worth and is playing with your self-esteem.
You might want to revaluate the direction in which this is all heading. Speak
up about the issues because bottling things up can be toxic for both of you in
the grand scheme of things. If you’re a priority, sex is important, communication
is important, and hell your time is important!



It’s much easier said by a group of us who don’t
know you, but wouldn’t you rather be uplifted and happy?


xo

Apr 17, 2017 @ 08:41 am
diannamerritt

Sex

This is what's exactly happening to me and my man right now.
Apr 17, 2017 @ 09:12 am

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