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hunter_jc

Hi gals,
I am ready to try speed dating. But I really worry of my chances to find a caucasion as pretty as many of you are. Is there a reputable agency that has a better success rate for an Asian guy looking for a Caucasian girl?
Aug 21, 2008 @ 10:03 pm

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artist

Umm...

Sorry hunter_jc, but I really cannot help you here.

I'm not sure if speed dating is really about matching a person with someone of another race that they are interested in. I have never been, but I am sure that speed dating is more about getting to know a person in a short period of time to see whether or not you have similar interests, and can possibly be compatible together. Physical attraction is a factor as well, but I'm sure that this is not what they're all about.

If you are really concerned, I guess all you can do is try it out and see what it is like. You never know unless you try, right? I'm sure while you're there you can take note of all the pretty Caucasian ladies, and then make note about getting all their phone numbers... ; )

Just remember: It's all about confidence. All women want a confident (not overly-confident or cocky) man who is sure of himself and what he wants. Respect and courtesy are important as well. Be a gentleman. Just remember those things and I'm sure you'll be fine.
Aug 22, 2008 @ 12:53 am
MizzRobin

Yikes!

Although I have never done speed dating myself, I do agree with Artist and feel it is more about matching a person with someone that they have a connection with and share common interests with. I don't think it has anything to do with race at all. Brutal. I can't believe people still think like that and furthermore write about that sort of thing on a forum that encompasses women from many different backgrounds.
Aug 22, 2008 @ 12:46 pm
Anonymous

I'll take model # 435...

I have to agree with MizzRobin... what does race have to do with it? Sounds like you are picking a model out of a catalogue or a pet at the store rather than looking to meet a PERSON that you connect with and has shared interests. When you say you are looking for a "pretty caucasian girl" that is going to rub everyone the wrong way. Having the right skin colour and being pretty does not automatically make someone a good person.
Aug 22, 2008 @ 06:55 pm
hunter_jc

I am not being racist

I just find that there is a wall when i try to meet Caucasian girls. I want to break that wall. I have gone out with other girls. I just feel that wall. I am not sure if you gals know what i mean. Just feel frustrated about not able to communicate with someone sucks.
Aug 22, 2008 @ 11:17 pm
hunter_jc

I am never going to date.

I can't seem to be able to communicate very well.
Sorry that i offended you guys.
Aug 22, 2008 @ 11:31 pm
Ali de Bold

Don't say that hunter_jc

Never say never and don't focus on it so much. I think everyone here is trying to give you their best advice. The more preoccupied you are with meeting someone the more obvious it will be. Looking for a Caucasian because you want to 'break down a wall' with a race is still not a good reason to be with someone. Women want to be with someone who really understands them and likes them for who they are. They don't want to be "selected" for their skin colour or their looks or because someone is trying to make a connection with another race.

Just take the advice at face value and try not to worry so much about meeting someone. I don't know anyone who truly wanted to meet someone who stayed single forever. Your time will come. I know that sounds cliche but it's true.
Aug 23, 2008 @ 12:11 am
mamaluv

The Wall

I think ultimately a woman's decision to date someone not of their ethnic background is not something you will be able to affect. A person is either willing or not to see beyond race. Thankfully, these days it is nearly a non-issue!

If you are hitting a wall, I'd like to carefully ask if you have mentioned your desire to date outside of your ethnic background to a prospective date? Many women are way beyond that hangup, so if you make a point of asking about it, they may assume (perhaps wrongly) that it is a big deal to you. I think most of us (men and women) don't like the insinuation that it would matter, so asking if it does may send the wrong vibe.

And don't forget that some girls are just snobs. They may turn you down because there is someone else right there they'd rather date or because they don't like your outfit or aftershave (I once turned down someone because they were wearing Velcro sneakers - but in my defense, they were way past Kindergarten and have no business wearing such things - yeah, that was a stupid reason) . There are very shallow people out there, so you can't take every rejection as a personal slight. Move on, be yourself and soon enough you'll find that right girl.
Aug 23, 2008 @ 02:58 pm
hunter_jc

Thanks mamaluv

Thank you very much. you cleared up some of my confusion now.
Aug 23, 2008 @ 03:46 pm
TigerLilly

I've been speed dating before

I've been speed dating once before. It was an interesting experience and was more for entertainment value than for actually meeting someone. If you have any questions about it I can give you my perspective on it.

In terms of race, I believe that some people tend to be attracted to a certain race more than others. I don't think it's something you can help, it's just what you personally find attractive. Some guys (or girls!) might be more attracted to Caucasians, Asians, blondes, the punk-look, etc.
Aug 23, 2008 @ 07:19 pm
Anonymous

wrong approach

I think that if you go into dating trying to date someone based on criteria like race you are going to be disappointed. I agree with Tigerlilly that people that be attacted to certain races more than others but I do think it is wrong for a guy to come onto a website where women rate products and discuss issues and make offensive comments.
Aug 25, 2008 @ 10:21 am

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