Ali de Bold
|Don't agree with it. on Nov 26, 2007 @ 01:38 pm|
Even if some women don't mind their man staring at other naked women, I think the whole idea of it is wrong. It objectifies women and doesn't help the rest of the female population to be taken seriously as a human being. The same goes for male strippers.
Many people argue men are simply "built differently" or that going to strip clubs is harmless and not really sexual but I disagree.
How is this ever beneficial for women? How is it ever beneficial for your relationship?
Anonymous, I don't blame you for being troubled by this. I would be too.
|agreed on Nov 26, 2007 @ 03:25 pm|
I agree with misschickie on this one 100%.
|not for me, but maybe for thee on Nov 26, 2007 @ 06:44 pm|
I used to hold the same opinion as the others here, but have come to accept the other point of view, as well.
A few years back, in San Francisco, I went to a strip club w/ a friend who was having his bachelor party (guys + girls invited). It was soooooooooo cheezy and hokey! Nothing about the strip club experience seemed real, sexy, desirable, or threatening. Even the men I was there w/ seemed to be uncomfortable, rather than taking it all in and really digging the evening.
Most of the girls were attractive, but by no means rock stars. Nothing about them was anymore alluring than any other chick on the street (except fewer clothes). And along the same line, they seemed just like normal women. They got up on stage, did their thing, and were done -- completely normal women aside from their 10 minute show. I do not judge the women for their choice or situation that has brought them to their line of work.
Stripping has been around for a very long time and will continue for a very long time. Even if you don't agree w/ it, I promise you, its nothing you should feel threatened by. And like any other activity that objectifies women/men, its just one of thousands of lines of work. Not everyone has to like it.
|maybe im just insecure on Nov 27, 2007 @ 05:29 am|
mayb im just insecure,b/cz my brother tried to explain that there really is nothing to worry about.my boyfriend never goes though,just that it's his close cousin's bachelor party...i think i need to take a chill pill
|try to learn from your insecurity ... on Nov 27, 2007 @ 12:06 pm|
I think its ok to feel the way you do, anonymous. Its very natural for most women to have that impression. I shared that opinion, too, for a long time, until I finally set foot in a strip club myself. Perhaps consider going to one to see for yourself what it is you may or may not have to worry about. It was a very eye opening experience for me (no pun intended). It taught me a lot about that culture and lifestyle and most of all, it taught me to not be jealous/insecure when it comes to strip clubs.
|I hate the idea. on Nov 27, 2007 @ 10:18 pm|
My ex husband was obsessed with them, among other things....and I had a huge problem with it - especially when he'd come home with autographed photos of trampy looking women. Anyway - he's now my ex and I'm now with someone who doesn't care for the clubs.
I think you have nothing to worry about if your BF isn't the type who feels the need to go all the time. Chances are one night isn't going to change him into a skeezy, stip club frequenter.
As for the girls dancing up to him - I've never been to a club, but I understand most clubs have rules about that...sure there are services that can robably be paid for (Lap dances) but chances are if you talk to him about your feelings before he goes (be rational), hopefully he won't partake out of respect for you.
|It's ok with me! on Dec 02, 2007 @ 07:58 pm|
Once me and my guy went and he made the girl dance for me
|not a big deal on Dec 05, 2007 @ 06:10 pm|
I have been to a strip club, and I have to agree with Spotty. it was cheesy, under-rated, not really that fun, and expensive! Everyone seemed uncomfortable, and I didn't find it a very sexy atmosphere (although it probably doesn't have to be, just naked people will get guys going, never mind the decor). Don't trust what you see on TV, it's not all gorgeous girls who know how to do their thing - half of them either look like the girl next door (and probably is!) or can't dance any better than those of us hitting the clubs every 6 months.
If my boyfriend were to make this a regular thing I would have a problem. But for bachelor parties I am fine. Otherwise he better take me with him!
|i hate guys who go to strip clubs on Dec 06, 2007 @ 06:49 pm|
I totally agree with misschickie, she's spot-on.
I think strip clubs (guys or girls, but it's normally girls stripping for guys) are disgusting, degrading, and unnatural. It turns women into sexual objects, and encourages guys to see them that way. And why should guys be able to watch a girl strip who they're not in a relationship with? It's just gross.
What are the only two occupations in which women consistently make more money than men? Prostitution and modelling (not sure if stripping is supposed to fall under "prostitution" for the purposes of that study, but it's much the same thing). What does that say about our society? Women are valued only for their looks or sexuality.
If I had a boyfriend who wanted to go to a strip club, for whatever reason, I'd kick him to the curb without a second thought. I would never want to go see guys strip, so he should bloody well get his horniness under control. I seriously don't understand guys at all.
About comments about most people being uncomfortable in strip clubs - if it really made them uncomfortable, why are they there? Why would they return? I think they like it (the guys), but are embarrassed either because they know it's wrong or else they're embarrassed b/c girls are there as well, or their girlfriends are with them, or whatever. What I REALLY don't get is why women agree to go with their guy friends or boyfriends to watch girls strip! What the heck? How can you get guys to show women respect if you're not willing to show them respect yourself?
|they say... on Dec 14, 2007 @ 02:15 pm|
they say the whole reason men enjoy going to strip clubs is that deep down thought that he will "make it" with one of the hot girls he meets there. i've read that this is what goes through the mind of the majority of men at strip clubs.
So will anything good come of it - no.
Could he have fun and let loose a little - sure.
i have no problem with strip clubs as long as everyone involved understands what will and will not be going on, and no one is lying to the one they love.