"Who you are" VS "Who you want to be"


My mind wanders like crazy when i try to study..which is exactly whats been happening all day! During my wanderings I started thinking who am i now, who did i want to be? And that struck me as such a great topic that i'm posting it here :-)

So who are you? and who do you want to be? where did you think you'd be by now, and where are you now?

remember back when you were a child or teen and would think "when i grow up i want ......." how much of that is what you are and where you are now?

you guys start this off .. i'll say my bit just a bit later :)
Feb 21, 2009 @ 01:48 am

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totally different

I had a completely different idea of my career path, family situation, etc. There is almost nothing the same as I had envisioned... BUT I wouldn't trade it now.

I was going to be a surgeon and wait on marriage and family, stay close to my home town or at least in the same country as my birth.

What did happen: I fell ridiculously in love at a young age, impulsively married, we moved to several different countries and now have 3 kids. I ended up getting a Bachelor's degree in Environmental Science (which satisfied the science geek in me to be sure!), and now live far from family and friends. I work for ChickAdvisor in a decidedly non-medical or non-scientific capacity.

Not what I would have ever expected or thought I wanted. But I can't imagine life any other way!

That's my story...
Feb 21, 2009 @ 11:09 am

I'm happy with my life but not where I thought I'd be

I never really knew what I wanted to be; I didn't have childhood dreams of becoming a dancer or an astronaut. Perhaps I just wasn't very ambitious as a child. However, one thing I knew for sure was that I didn't want to be a doctor.

If you had asked me 10 years ago, I probably would've told you I don't want kids. But now, I'm happily married with a little baby and we are already talking about having more kids.

If you had asked me 1 year ago whether I want to quit my job and stay home with my baby, I would've told you definitely no. But now that I have this little cutie-pie in my life, I am very sad to have to go back to work in the fall and if we could afford it, I would definitely choose to stay home to be a full time mom.

So I guess my answer to your question is: my life didn't turn out the way I thought it would but everything is working out perfectly. :)
Feb 21, 2009 @ 11:10 am

thank u for ur responses!

hey girls thank u for ur responses! :) i'm still trying to formulate mine .... come on ladies keep these coming .. think! where are you now? where did you think you'd be? :)
Feb 23, 2009 @ 07:17 pm
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Who am I? Who did I think I would be? What do I want now?

Who am I know? A life coach, partner, friend and confidant.
Who did I think I would be? I thought I would be a mother and a wife, perhaps going to school part time and helping by volunteering in my community.

To date no children and currently not married - not really looking to do the marriage thing again. I love what I do for a living. Helping others reach their highest and best is a dream career. I still volunteer my time, but in a professional capacity.

Who do I want to be? More of who I am now. Someone who continues to learn and grow. I progress a little like a tumbleweed. Sort of slow and letting my environment guide me along with instinct. When I was younger it was always push, push, push. I could not do anything or get anywhere fast enough. I want to continue to enjoy the pleasures of everyday life.
Feb 26, 2009 @ 08:30 pm

i wanted........

I wanted to be a Pediatritian, a wife, a mother, a Rockstar, a Singer, an Actress, a lot of things....

I'm not a doctor, or wife or mother... I'm only a rockstar / singer to myself ;-) lol I don't ever remember saying "when I grow up I want to be an IT professional", but guess what i am.........? :-) lol oh well... I can't complain at all, I'm working in a dynamic industry, and have a job I'm good at.. I'm very much loved and respected at work and really I've nothing to complain about :)

Well whatever I wanted to be or not want to be, one thing I always wanted was to be happy... and I am very happy!!!

I have a fantastic life... I'm 25 and completely single. I'm working in the IT industry full time and am back as a part time student. The biggest stress or unhappiness in my life runs along the lines of "omg i'm so fat!!!" or "sh*t i'm late for work!!" or "oh crap I still haven't done my assignment / still haven't studied for my exam!!!" ... speaking of which, I have a midterm tonight and look at me cruising chickadvisor not a care in the world...!! argh..ok back to the books! bye bye chickies :)

Mar 05, 2009 @ 12:35 pm

who i am/ who i want to be

When I was young I wanted to be a fashion designer or interior decorator. I was obsessed with home makeover shows.I used to draw clothing designs and furnitue designs in my sketch book.

When I got to highschool, I was really lazy and skipped school a lot. I thought I wasn't going to go anywhere in life, so I hoped someday in the future I'd win the lottery or marry a rich man - Hahaha.

Now I'm studying at a good university. I've worked at some amazing places and met lots of interesting people who have inspired me to do what I have achieved today.

Asides from school, I do some freelance writing and graphic design on the side, and I'm planning to start my own business. I never thought I would be doing so many things before turning 20. I thought I would still be hostessing but nope; I'm designing websites, editing magazines and doing some fun stuff.

Never think you can't do something just because you're young. You can do whatever you want to do if you try hard! :)

As for the future, I'm not sure what I want to do yet, but I know I want to travel and try a bit of everything.

Mar 06, 2009 @ 10:02 am

bus driver, baby sitter, swimming teacher

If you asked me at age 5 or 6, that would have been my answer! I've come a long way from my original aspirations (not that there's anything wrong w/ them).

I remember an exercise I did in 3rd grade where the teacher asked up to list/prioritize life events and at what age they'd occur. I answered that I'd get a degree at 22. Work for a few years. Marry at 24. Have kids at 26. Well, I definitely got the order right, but not the ages.I finished both of my degrees by 24. I worked (and continue to work) and married at 30. We don't have kids yet, but plan to.

I think it is smart to have a loose life plan, but it would be unwise to try to adhere to it strictly. Life comes at you in unexpected and unplanned for ways. You have to adapt and overcome and redefine your path along the way.
Mar 06, 2009 @ 10:24 am

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