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Workplace romances

venus

How would you handle a situation where you got involved with someone at work but it went bad. Things get ackward but you still have to work with this person directly on a daily basis. You try to stay friendly with this person and he is good one day but moody the next. Your coworkers are unaware of the past romance so you both try to act normal but it has been over 6 months and things are starting to get very strain. How would you handle this situation?
Jan 29, 2007 @ 07:52 pm

7 Replies


MizzRobin

Ooo that is a toughie!

I try to steer clear of office romances for that very reason...in case things go sour! Since you have already been there done that I would advise that you try to remain PROFESSIONAL. This means not allowing the relationship/personal crap in the door once you get into the office. If the other party does this then that is his problem. Rise above it and remain professional. In the end your colleagues will respect you more which is something you want if you want to continue to work there. Good luck and all the best...this is not an easy situation to be in...ever.
Jan 29, 2007 @ 08:22 pm
Ali de Bold

Ouch!

Ya, that's a tough one. Do you really love your job/company? If things get too bad I'd consider looking somewhere else or asking him to. It must be hard to focus on work with that hanging over your head.
Jan 29, 2007 @ 08:46 pm
MizzRobin

I was just thinking that...

funny you mention it misschickie, i just logged back in because I was thinking the advise is based on where I work and the career I have. If the job is just a job then I would maybe look at going elsewhere or asking him to so you don't have to be stressed every day. Hang in there Venus, it will get better! :o)
Jan 29, 2007 @ 09:05 pm
artist

communication is the key to everything..

I think it is really tough to ask someone else to quit their job. The whole issue is something you need to talk about with him, and then you both can decide what to do.
Jan 29, 2007 @ 09:16 pm
venus

Thanks for the advice...

We both have a career at this company so it is not so easy to give up our jobs. We have discuss this possibility but neither of us are ready to leave yet. We both are trying hard to be civil and do not always have the privacy to discuss our issues during work. This had lead to the stress of our situation. After your advice, I did have a heart to heart talk and we are at a truce for now. We will wait to see if there is a possiblity that one of us can change jobs within the company or elsewhere. We know this cannot last.
Jan 31, 2007 @ 09:11 pm
Ali de Bold

Good luck!

It sounds like you're doing everything the right way. I really hope it works out for you :)
Jan 31, 2007 @ 09:56 pm
MizzRobin

All the best!

It sounds like you are making the right moves by communicating with one another and at least calling a truce for the time being. I wish you the best of luck with this. I hope it all works out for you with not a lot of drama in between. Take care!!!
Jan 31, 2007 @ 10:08 pm

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