I hate the feeling of being grounded.I can't go to another country or take a vacation and go visit some family and friends.I am totally grounded because I have a fear of flying.I have flown a couple of times but,had some bad experiences.I don't like the Air Pockets and I hate it when I'm not in control.I guess I have some type of phobia.Like I said I'm grounded because I can't even go anywhere by Boat.My Husband and I would love to take a Cruise but I can't because I have a fear of deep water.When I was young I nearly drowned in a pond.Some friends and I were fooling around with this old boat.We took it out to deep water and what would you guess happened next,it started to sink and I couldn't swim back to shore.Some friends helped me back and I never went handy to deep water ever since.So I guess,I'm grounded.Any suggestions to get over my Phobia?
Mar 02, 2014 @ 06:42 pm

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Ali de Bold

Swimming lessons?

I'm just wondering if you have taken swimming lessons? That would certainly help you feel more in control to know that you can swim. For flying, I think you need to decide which is worse: Being on a plane for a few hours or never traveling anywhere far (and amazing). There are things you can do on a plane to relax yourself. Here's a few I do:

- Bring something engaging and simple to read like a magazine. If you can't focus on the words because you are too scared, look at the pictures to distract yourself.

- Some good music and a headset. Planes have built in entertainment systems with movies, tv shows and music. Usually these play even during take-off. That's a great distraction. But, it's nice to have your own stuff too.

- Order a glass of wine. This can help take the edge off during turbulence.

- Look out your window. I prefer window seats so I can see what's happening. When you are in turbulence and you look outside and realize everything's ok it helps a lot.

- If it gets really bad, close your eyes and imagine you are in a car on a bumpy road. It's really not much different. For most of your flight you won't even feel anything.

- Try some soothing stress relief oils you can rub on your wrists. Aveda makes one (I think it's lavender) that is just lovely.

The great thing about flights is they take you to amazing places in a really short period of time. Start with shorter flights to places 1-2 hours away. Conquer those before you take a trip overseas. It's so worth it. Good luck!
Mar 02, 2014 @ 09:52 pm


First of all, I was a flight attendant for 13 years and believe me when I say you are safer up there than down on the roads. My mum hates flying but has been all over the world, she buys a stock pile of smut magazines and reads them one after another!!!! Just remember you life is now, we do not get a dress rehearsal, there is so much inspiration to be found in travel. Face your fears with the help of a loving hand holder and unlock so many amazing and breathtaking sights, tastes and sounds.
Good Luck
Apr 04, 2014 @ 12:48 pm

Baby steps...

A phobia is an irrational fear or hyper-anxiety - so it's pretty impossible to rationalize your way out of it. I have a couple too (like blood-tests), so don't be harsh on yourself. What you can do is slowly start acclimatizing yourself to something you are phobic about. If it's deep water, I agree with the idea of trying beginner swimming lessons. As you progress in confidence, you'll move to the deep end of the pool. Then maybe you can try a lake swim. Keep repeating the steps you've accomplished - it reinforces the lesson, gives you a fresh rush of confidence, and stops the phobia from creeping back in. You can then you can take a 1-2 hour boat tour. After that, who knows... you might find yourself quite confident to take a cruise.

Once you conquer one mode of transporation, you might be willing to try to conquer another!

Once you admit to your phobia, and look hard at the reason for it, then the next step is to face it. I think it's called acclimitization therapy or a form of cognitive-behavioral therapy. There are therapists who can help with the steps. Fingers crossed for you!
Apr 06, 2014 @ 06:48 pm

Two choices

Either you try and overcome your fear of flying, or accept it and learn to travel without it. Overland (and sea) travel can be awfully expensive, but it can also be rewarding in a way that a flight never could be. You don't just hop on a plane and wake up in Bangkok, no - you take a ship across the ocean, see all there is to see, experience real travel. Not just fast transport. Good luck anyway!
Jun 14, 2014 @ 12:20 pm

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