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Can you judge dissability

Geordie girl

Im 52 years old have blonde coloured hair small build and casually dress .a year ago i took serious ill ended up on a life support .organ failure with sepsis .Well against the odds i reciverd and had normal brain function ( well some would question this lol ) anyway i have been left with 24% lung function so i walk slow and tasks even hoovering is compromised greatly Ì have a blue badge for my car but quite a lot of people look ,comment or shake there head if i use a disabled parking bay .having this illness  is bad enough but being judged is embarrassing and very upseting  at times .so do we judge people to easily these days ? or just like to moan more these  days ? .
Oct 27, 2019 @ 04:19 am

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skincareenthusiast

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I'm so sorry you're going through that after all you've already been through :(

People can be very quick to judge. Obviously this doesn't compare to what you're going through at all but I sat in a priority seat on the bus the other day (7 months pregnant) and the bus driver screamed at me in front of everyone to get out of the seat because he couldn't see I was pregnant. It's such a horrible feeling and leaves you feeling so self conscious and trying to act really obviously like you're struggling just to prove to people that you're worthy enough.
I know it's much easier said than done, but try not to let those random strangers get to you. You have the badge for a good reason and have every right to park in a disabled parking bay.
Oct 27, 2019 @ 07:35 am
Pinky40

Disability

my husband has muscle problems amongst other nerve problems and uses crutches for it to stable his walk we have a blue badge and you wouldn’t believe the dirty looks we / he gets because people see the crutches but they don’t know what there for . It’s so annoying the invisible disabilities are the worst as people Seam to visually need to see your disability or don’t believe it makes me so cross ! X
Oct 27, 2019 @ 12:56 pm
Sly132

Hidden disability sucks

Hi I also have a hidden disability and I’m sure people look when I park in a disabled bay. I say who are they to judge, They don’t know me or what I go through on a daily basis. I have fibromyalgia and I’m a breast cancer survivor to name but two yo can see my illnesses and I wouldn’t wish them on an enemy. Hold your head up high girl you were given your badge for a reason and it not for others to judge.
Stay strong
Oct 27, 2019 @ 01:49 pm
F101Vicky

Not All Disabilities are visible

It is possible to live with a condition like this without needing to rely on medical or walking aids, so to another person, you don't look like you have a health condition/disability. If you used a walking frame, a stick, a wheelchair or oxygen, it would be made visible & more obvious to others.

Not all illnesses or disabilities are visible, for example, Autism, is a registered disability, yet people with this do not look any different from other people.

People who have Chrohn's or collitis and use colostomy bags are allowed to use a disabled access toilet in public, if they have their own radar key. I think charities and Chrohn's societies arrange for the person to be issued one. People with this condition are often tutted at or commented on for using the accessible toilet when they have to queue, because this condition isn't visible, as your clothes can hide a colostomy.

Not all disabilities are visible.
Apr 16, 2021 @ 08:49 am
F101Vicky

Concessions, and invisible disabilities

Not all disabilities are easily given away. I have a relative with very poor eyesight to the point he's registered blind but you wouldn't guess it unless he tells people; he uses a long cane at the airport / busy unfamiliar places like that and also small magnifiers. When we tell airport staff on the rare occasion he uses an airport, they issue a concession card / lanyard that allows him & people with him to jump long queues and get on a plane first. They are really accomodating.
May 24, 2021 @ 01:57 am
22twinmama

You are not alone!

Oh girl, you are so not alone! First off, I would really suggest you find a group to join online where you can talk about this kind of topic. It really does help. There are a lot of them out there. Just be careful and go slow in the beginning. Just like in real life, not all of them are good for you or the proper fit. I have a chronic pain disorder as well as many health problems really. It started in my early 30's, that was over 18 years ago. The stares, dirty looks, etc have all gotten better with age but are still bad. People have actually come up to me and wanted proof that I'm disabled. I'm like, that's my private business. I don't have to prove anything to you. How about a police officer explain it to you? I'm not going to waste my precious time that is very limited in how long I can be out and about arguing with someone with such a limited view of life that they can't get that maybe they can't see how I'm disabled. It's so rude and inconsiderate. I walk very slow and people at the grocery store nearly mow me down. I don't go anymore. I just order it all online. I don't like that because I don't know what new things come out. I can't get the best deals. There are a lot of things I miss but it's better than how I'm treated and it doesn't put me out of commission for a week. Yes, people are that judgmental. Of course I live in the US and after Trump, it's only gotten MUCH worse. People think that it is okay to just say whatever pops in there head. It's awful. I do not know if we are ever going to be the same again. It's going to take a very long time. I'm very worried he's going to be back which isn't going to help us going in the right direction. Anyway, good luck to you. Many of us understand your world because we live in it too. Take care!
May 25, 2021 @ 03:52 am
lamurap

no judgement here

You can not judge anyone unless you are in their bodies and you can feel their pain.

You can not judge any other person's disability as some are not visible.
May 27, 2021 @ 11:45 am
F101Vicky

You Can't Judge

Unless you know a person really well, there's no telling what they go through daily - and there's no way of telling who has a hidden disability / illness / disorder. Not all disabilities are visible.
May 27, 2021 @ 01:48 pm

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