pastrychefchick
I am completely against domestic violence, I myself have been in a bad situation from which I am still struggling to recover mentally. I was at Barnes and Nobles today and I never listen to other people's conversations, but I did this time. A young woman and her friend (they had to be in their mid twenties) were talking about one of their boyfriends. She was upset that he slapped her on one occasion, and on several other occasions he had grabbed her so bad he left bruises on her arms. Her friend was telling her that this was unacceptable and that she needed to leave and get help, and all I kept hearing the other girl say was "he promised it will never happen again, he said he had a moment where he made a huge error in judgement,but it will never happen again" I myself got a little upset because I know how it feels to be in a situation such as this and I know how it feels to think he might have just made a mistake, part of me believes him when he says it will never happen again. I eventually realized it was wrong, he shouldn't have even done it once even if he never does it again, do I really want to gamble on that? I def do not, so I left. I felt bad for this girl, but did not want to get involved, part of me wishes I did, but I didn't. After hearing this conversation, I was in shock in what some of my friends opinions were when I brought the matter to them. Some of them said he might change for that girl, maybe he really didn't mean to do that to her. My opinion is how can a man bring his self to even do it once? That to me is unforgivable, I think about my situation when I give my opinion, even if he really never were to touch me again, I don't think I would ever be able to forget it, and I would forever feel like an idiot for being with a man that once felt it was alright to hit me. I would forever be afraid that something might trigger him again, and I don't want to live like that.
So my question is, what is your opinion? Do you think it's alright to stay with someone who has put their hands on you? Would you forgive someone for putting their hands on you and stay with them if they promised it would never happen again? It's very sad and I wish women didn't forgive it so easily like I did because you never know what can happen, what he might do next time and is it really worth it? I was surprised when I heard how many of my friends would give their partner another chance if he hit them, I've been there and it didn't chance sure it was alright for a while but then it happened again. I wish they knew and took it seriously. Thanks for your opinions ladies!
I am completely against domestic violence, I myself have been in a bad situation from which I am still struggling to recover mentally. I was at Barnes and Nobles today and I never listen to other people's conversations, but I did this time. A young woman and her friend (they had to be in their mid twenties) were talking about one of their boyfriends. She was upset that he slapped her on one occasion, and on several other occasions he had grabbed her so bad he left bruises on her arms. Her friend was telling her that this was unacceptable and that she needed to leave and get help, and all I kept hearing the other girl say was "he promised it will never happen again, he said he had a moment where he made a huge error in judgement,but it will never happen again" I myself got a little upset because I know how it feels to be in a situation such as this and I know how it feels to think he might have just made a mistake, part of me believes him when he says it will never happen again. I eventually realized it was wrong, he shouldn't have even done it once even if he never does it again, do I really want to gamble on that? I def do not, so I left. I felt bad for this girl, but did not want to get involved, part of me wishes I did, but I didn't. After hearing this conversation, I was in shock in what some of my friends opinions were when I brought the matter to them. Some of them said he might change for that girl, maybe he really didn't mean to do that to her. My opinion is how can a man bring his self to even do it once? That to me is unforgivable, I think about my situation when I give my opinion, even if he really never were to touch me again, I don't think I would ever be able to forget it, and I would forever feel like an idiot for being with a man that once felt it was alright to hit me. I would forever be afraid that something might trigger him again, and I don't want to live like that.
So my question is, what is your opinion? Do you think it's alright to stay with someone who has put their hands on you? Would you forgive someone for putting their hands on you and stay with them if they promised it would never happen again? It's very sad and I wish women didn't forgive it so easily like I did because you never know what can happen, what he might do next time and is it really worth it? I was surprised when I heard how many of my friends would give their partner another chance if he hit them, I've been there and it didn't chance sure it was alright for a while but then it happened again. I wish they knew and took it seriously. Thanks for your opinions ladies!
Aug 07, 2010 @ 02:54 am