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Inappropriate touching

Anonymous

Ladies, I have a situation I need some feedback on. 
My boyfriend is a very touchy person and has a habit of doing random vagina grabs. Not for any sexual reason, but just randomly, when were standing in a parking lot, driving in a car, having a conversation. He thinks its a way to playfully show affection. But for me, it doesn't feel that way. In fact while I do not mind other ways of touching to show affection (hugging, kissing, bum smacks as you walk by), that one really bothers me. I've tried to bring it up multiple times that I do not like to be touched that way for no reason, he stands firm that this is just another way to playfully show intimacy, and that he has never had such a complaint in the past from a girlfriend. 

I am not sure what to do about this situation, because I really don't like this particularly thing being done to me. But I'm also curious if other women find this acceptable? I've talked to my best friend about it and she agrees that she wouldn't like that being done to her, and has never had this experience herself in any of her relationships, just as I haven't. I just think some things should be off limits even with your partner. 

Do keep in mind that I am referring to vagina grabs in non sexual situations, and not when you are actually being intimate with each other. 
Aug 02, 2017 @ 06:00 pm

22 Replies

Pammywhammy845

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If you're telling him to stop and that you don't like it , and he's still doing it , it's a problem . No one has the right to touch us there without our permission.
Aug 02, 2017 @ 06:14 pm
karma0317

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I agree with Pammywhammy845 I think if it's a sexual move then I wouldn't mind. Like if your trying to get my in the mood. But for the way you're describing it, I wouldn't like it either. And I don't think you should tolerate that type of behavior since your completely not okay with it.
Aug 02, 2017 @ 07:43 pm
Anonymous

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there is nothing wrong with getting vagina grabs my boyfriend does it and its perfectly cool im a nympho and i casually grab his crotch whenever i can lol
Aug 02, 2017 @ 10:36 pm
Coanth

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It really doesn't matter if he thinks it's just a playful act, it's your body and if you're not comfortable with it he should respect your wishes. If he won't listen or stop then it sounds like he doesn't have very much respect for you :(.
Aug 02, 2017 @ 10:41 pm
Mlepine

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My SO does it but only at home since I told him that I don't think it's appropriate in public place. Some intimacy moves can only be made at home and not in front of everybody.

On the other hand, I think it's a no- respect for you since you told him you don't like it and he still continues to do it. I don't know for how long you are with him and how well your relationship goes, but if this is a major problem for you, maybe I will try to be more firm with him. Even if you are in couple with somebody, your body is still yours. You have the right to say no.
Aug 03, 2017 @ 10:46 am
Anonymous

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This happens to me too. I don't like it when he grabs my boobs, butt, etc in public when people are around. I've told him many times and we have even gotten into fights about it. We have been together twenty years and he did it twice last week. It's really frustrating for me.
Aug 03, 2017 @ 11:13 am
Pammywhammy845

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Consent . It makes all the difference . Some people like it , and others don't .
Aug 03, 2017 @ 12:10 pm
diannamerritt

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I find it very uncomfortable for my man to get all touchy in public as I believe it should be done behind doors. Sometimes I'll kiss him long in pulic. But grabs I wished he did more.
Aug 03, 2017 @ 12:40 pm
Winslow

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If you have asked him not to. Bottom line he needs to respect that
Aug 03, 2017 @ 12:44 pm
danaorgnero

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I agree, if you have asked him not to then he shouldn't be doing it. I'm with you, I wouldn't like it either. Hopefully he will listen to what you're saying and respect you.
Aug 04, 2017 @ 03:49 pm

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